My intuition has been quite strong my entire life, I just didn’t realize it, I was interpreting what I was feeling based on what older folks who wanted control were telling me about myself.
As I grew older, I became much more introverted. To be alone with my thoughts. To learn why I feel things the way I do.
Intuition is your survival instinct.
However, in a world where everyone lives to be 100, most people don’t need to heed their intuition to survive. Ever.
Your intuition is anxiety. Anxiety is good. Anxiety means you need to move away from that situation. If you let someone else decipher your anxiety, they’ll make you feel like it’s just you; NEVER give another human the opportunity to TELL you what you’re feeling. You can never come back from that — they have just assumed control of your feelings and will take advantage of that when the time is right. They might tell you that you have depression so they can tell the boss they helped you work out your depression and get credit for something that was never there. Or they might discredit anything you ever say again because you’re emotionally unstable thus prolonging the anxiety.
Intuition isn’t meant to be discussed with others. Since we are all animals, apex predators, intuition must be strongest in those most capable of surviving. You don’t see animals discuss with each other before they run away from something scary — they just start running because they want to survive.
This world creates problems so it can create solutions, remember that.
Not everyone put in charge of you is there to help you. On a micro scale concerning individual interactions, you have most likely encountered individuals whom act illogically over and over prolonging the issue at hand and asking for help over and over or a boss constantly changing the rules once you’ve gotten the current system down pat.
When there is a clear divergence between logic and emotion, and the edge begins to rise in your chest, remove yourself from the situation. Don’t discuss it with others.
How does an SJ type see an INTJ?
Hmm… I have an INTJ for a girlfriend and I got to know more of her INTJ tendencies over the years.
Her tendencies always seem to be the following:
1. Ability to see through things.
2. Reads between the lines.
3. Reaches conclusions through connecting information from various sources.
4. Doesn’t like unplanned, unscheduled, or spontaneous activities.
5. She’s a mastermind. Plans and executes her plans really well.
6. She’s quite reasonable. And I think INTJ’s are very reasonable.
7. She doesn’t like repeating things over and over again. So listen carefully and mindfully. If you need her to repeat, just admit you weren’t listening properly. hahaha… 😀 Which sometimes happens to me since I tend to jumble information.
8. She’s has quite a cold and snobby front. But once you get to know her personally or you’ll learn to love her traits and person as well.
9. She explains stuff very well, and usually is right 99.5% of the time. So that 0.5% percent are times when I’m right. But it’s not quite a big deal really.
10. She’s loyal.
11. She evaluates situation according to new information.
12. When you talk to INTJ, they do listen. Let them speak their mind out and you’ll learn a lot form them.
13. Make sure that when you argue with them, your statements, claims, or position do not contain B.S. If they do, expect it to be shot down instantly.
14. They have an inner world where they reveal vulnerabilities. Only a few get to be in their inner world. When you do get in, please treasure it.
15. Don’t take things personally when an INTJ snaps at you. It’s not you, it’s the thing they’re snapping is causing them distress or discomfort.
16. Lastly, INTJ are not impossible to love. As an ISFJ, I see my INTJ as someone who builds you up. Just listen to them, and you’ll grow into a more wonderful person than you’ll ever be on your own.
How do INTJ react when someone is provoking them?
How to provoke an INTJ: Repeat ignorant and illogical things while in a position of some influence. INTJs also hate lies. So lying about the INTJ will provoke them a lot.
INTJ will respond with a lengthy, factual, well referenced rebuttal. Then they will ignore you, possibly forever. It is hard to live rent free in the mind of an INTJ. Once we decide that you are not capable of reason or truth, we do not take it personally. But we don’t bother with you any more. Drama and grudges do not interest us.
Getting a huge argument is good, this means we think you are capable of reason. It means we care.
Getting no response is bad. You have lost our interest. Nothing personal, but—not worth the effort.
12 Things the INTJ Personality Absolutely Hates
Things an INTJ Hates
1. Incompetent power-holders
Few things will make an INTJ angrier than a boss or authority figure that seems undeserving of their position. If they see a person in charge that does not appear to think through their actions, avoids making decisions, or only seems to have gotten where they are through blatant self-promotion, it will be very difficult for an INTJ to keep their mouth shut. Above all else, these thinkers value brilliance, self-confidence, and the ability to make firm, effective decisions.
2. Constant social interaction
INTJs, like all introverts, need lots of time to themselves. No matter how much they love hanging out with a particular person, if they find themselves unable to escape from said person to read a book or work on a project, they’ll become exhausted and get more and more difficult to be around.
To be clear, we’re talking about constant social interaction with a good friend. Partly owing to their Extroverted Thinking function, many INTJs absolutely love to talk, but only about the subjects that they’ve explored and thought about very deeply (usually having a scientific, social, or psychological bent). Small talk is probably not going to happen. If it absolutely needs to happen, INTJs will probably disappear as soon as they can.
3. Dishonesty
People who routinely lie definitely bother an INTJ, but because this type is incredibly intuitive, what bothers them more is the person who is dishonest with themselves. It’s true that INTJs can be absolutely wrong about who a person really is, but they usually learn from experience to trust their intuitive hunches. Right or wrong, if an INTJ thinks you’re in a bad career, relationship, or life trajectory, they’ll probably tell you. Bluntly.
4. Tears and feelings
It’s not that INTJs don’t care. If you’re in their life, they definitely care about what you’re going through. Feelings just make them nervous, and the more they try to take emotions into account, usually the worse they do at pleasing other people. INTJs do feel, but they tend to take a pragmatic approach to their emotions, trying to optimize their lives and relationships based on what they can immediately control. They also expect the people in their lives to try to behave rationally.
5. Ignorance
Reading and education are incredibly important to INTJs, but they aren’t total monsters about it. If you haven’t read a book that they have or don’t know anything about a subject that they know a lot about, they’ll understand. That said, if you throw your opinion around without reading the article, or frequently talk about how useless education is, you’re probably not going to make an INTJ happy.
6. When people don’t use their knowledge
INTJs love to learn and are insatiably curious. But, surprisingly, they’re not the type to learn and learn and never do anything with that knowledge. These thinkers act as much as they learn, and what drives them crazy is running into someone who loves to think about ideas but never tries to put them into practice. INTJs want to test out their theories in real life, instead of only playing around with ideas in their heads.
7. Rules and the status quo
Playing by the rules is not very important to INTJs. Give them a list of rules and they may endlessly question you, bend the rules, and even break them if they see a better way. INTJs are always innovating and tweaking. If they don’t have the opportunity to do that, they’ll be very, very, unhappy — and you’ll probably hear about it.
8. Routine tasks
Obviously, routine tasks are not looking good for this personality type. INTJs are easily bored with process work and are not good at paper-pushing. They might, say, go to the gym, but only after they’ve created the best, most research-backed and efficient way of working out. Groceries, clothing, cooking, anything routine, will never be done the same way every day — if at all. Or they’ll delegate these tasks.
9. Social niceties
INTJs enjoy friendships and need people just as much as anyone else. However, getting people to play along with that goal is a source of endless frustration for this personality type. Analytical approaches are pretty much useless when trying to connect with another person, and INTJs usually come to know this through painful experience. They may be better off displaying their brilliance and waiting for other people to come to them instead of becoming frustrated with “the game” of social interaction.
10. Aimless activities
To hang out with an INTJ, you either need to have a plan or prepare to have one made for you. They’re not inclined to play anything by ear, and they hate uncoordinated activities. That said, their hatred for all unplanned things can result in master plans for the best day ever. Just make sure that you define what “the best day ever” is in advance — otherwise you might end up enrolled in a materials engineering course.
11. When people want to stay the same
INTJs are constantly changing and growing, and they demand that others do the same. Improving processes and techniques usually morphs over time into a tireless obsession with improving themselves and their relationships. Growth is a must, and INTJs will be bored to death if they are forced to do the same things day in and day out.
12. Closed-mindedness
Wait, aren’t INTJs considered uncompromising and closed-minded? Think again. INTJs are more able to change their opinions and beliefs than most other Myers-Briggs personality types. They just need to be faced with overwhelming evidence. Give them rational evidence that they should change, and they probably will. When faced with someone who never changes despite sufficient evidence, INTJs will probably engineer their downfall.
Are You an INTJ?
Some of these points are things a lot of people will hate, and every INTJ is going to be a little different. If you can relate to most of them, however, chances are good that you’re an INTJ. Want to be one hundred percent sure? There’s an easy way to find out: Take this free personality assessment from Personality Hacker and see your personality type in minutes.
