INTJ are solo creatures. We’re not driven to partner. We don’t need to, we’re already complete.
Because we don’t have to have a relationship, we’re able to negotiate from the power position. Our freedom from need allows us to pursue our wish list.
INTJs are both perceivers (Ni) and goal oriented (J). INTJs are attracted to people who are both open to possibilities and able to focus in order to get sh*t done.
Plainly, both an open mind and task driven behavior is key to the INTJ heart.
Turn offs are: complacency, mental dogmas, logical fallacies, putting the INTJ into a box, boxes of any sort really, assumptions, endless perditions, negative compliance, dependency, chemical dependencies, lack of emotional discernment, lack of purpose etc.
In a nutshell:
Creator mindset = good
Consumer mindset = bad
What are INTJs best at?
I think that this question is impossible to answer with one particular perspective. As an INTJ-A and a big fan of type-casting and in general (algorithms), I’ll share my perspective:
I (believe/think/feel/suspect) that INTJ’s are best at spending years or decades collecting seemingly unconnected bits of information that is combined with knowledge acquired through reading, self-designed experiments, and observations. Along the way, life circumstances specific to each one begin to emerge from a collection of experiences or a few compelling ones. Once a purpose of life is identified and refined through the years into a vision, or if a mission presents itself that aligns with the vision, they can take that cumulative understanding and apply with persistence, resulting in a high rate of successful outcomes relative to the intended goal.
To summarize, I think INTJ’s are best at perceiving a potential pattern which they then seek to understand and reverse engineer, followed by applying and refining. They realize that this is just one of many and that they are all connected and meshed by forces unknown to them, but that clearly exist. Spending a lifetime seeking to understand this backbone interconnection that governs what appears to render us without willpower or limited control at best; once they find a purpose, it is very probable that they can achieve it given that the focus of life is in understanding its source code.
What are INTJs best at?
INTJs are the best at nothing, but they’re the best at being able to do everything.
Let me explain.
Other MBTI types are specialists and excel at doing one thing. For example: INTPs are good at aquiring knowledge and ENFJs are good at leading. In fact, they may be considered the best.
INTJs, however, are good at both aquiring knowledge and leading. But, they’re not the best, they just do pretty well.
Hopefully that makes sense.
INTJs are the “jack-of-all-trades” of the MBTI. We are the wild-card. We can do anything. We are unpredictable. There is a “stereotypical INTJ”, but rarely do we ever fit that stereotype.
What does it feel like to be an INTJ?
I’m just going to write a post I made on my Tumblr blog. These are only the struggles though. I’ll put up the pros of being an INTJ later:
20 Struggles of an INTJ
1. We hardly enjoy mainstream movies because we successfully predict the rest of the movie as we go on watching it. We get an urge to say “I told you this would happen!” every time something we predicted happens. But we have to shut up because it’s pissing people off.
2. We always end up finding different solutions to curb the chaos and confusion we encounter in daily life. Then we go on a tirade about how it can be improved/avoided but even after having all the right ideas, we can’t do shit about it, and that’s really irritating.
3. We vanish off the face of the Earth for 10 hours straight, not even realizing it. When all our friends later ask us where we went, we’re not able to explain that we got busy doing/reading something interesting, and didn’t feel like being disturbed.
4. Our extrovert friends don’t understand why we can’t go out everyday. It’s mentally draining. I need some time by myself to relax, and think, and then mentally prepare for the next outing.
5. When we state our extremely free thinking opinion about something and watch people’s mouths drop. Like no, there’s nothing wrong with the way I think. Y’all are too wrapped up in the mainstream culture to look beyond it.
6. We tend to block out external sounds, and that’s great when we need to get some work done, but it’s not great when there’s a person standing next to us, talking on and on about something (or even on the phone) and we have no idea what they said because we were busy thinking.
7. Our mouth really needs a ‘harsh and cruel things’ filter because we’re just trying to be straightforward and honest but more often than not we just end up saying the bitter truths the other person doesn’t want to hear. Sometimes I know I’m being harsh and I should maybe not be that honest, but I can’t stop it.
8. As much as we love to debate and argue, there’s always the possibility that we’ll lose an argument, and there’s nothing more vexing (unless our logic is faulty, in which case it’s okay. But our logic is almost never wrong, so losing in that case hurts our ego.)
9. When talking to one of our acquaintances, we have to keep in check the information we reveal that we know about that person. So that we don’t appear to be stalkers, when in reality we’re just really observant and remember tiny things about people (Also, we might have gone through their Facebook page once or twice.)
10. We despise group projects. Not only will we have to work with comparatively inefficient people, their skills and hard work will affect our success (what a nightmare!) The only way we’re going to be even remotely comfortable with this group thing is if everyone listens to us and tries to follow the proper steps that will cause the work to finish on time and in an efficient manner.
11. If suddenly something captures our attention, we just have to know each and everything about it. It often leads to us not doing other things that require our attention more. Same goes with puzzles or problems that involve calculation. We don’t let go until we’ve solved it, and our methods are almost always different from the mainstream methods, so it pisses us off even more when it doesn’t seem to work.
12. It’s difficult for us to digest compliments and react to them. Like if someone says we’re “cute” or “smart”, we resist the urge to say “I know”, because we do. We are self confident individuals who know our strengths and weaknesses. Plus, we’ve been told that so often that saying “thank you” again and again has become tiresome.
13. Our flirting style is an awkward mix of subtle compliments and sarcastic good humored insults. It’s kinda different from mainstream flirting which is why our crushes never realize that we genuinely like them.
14. We can’t take it when someone does something very slowly (unless performing that action in a slow manner would improve the quality of the work.) Nothing is more excrutiating than sitting beside someone, seeing them struggle as they slowly do whatever has to be done. We resist the urge to push them off and do it in their place (Sorry, Te function makes us that way.)
15. Whenever we end up in a situation where logic defies us and feelings take over, there’s at least one moment when we go completely bonkers and try to get rid of those feelings (”Nope, nope, nope. Feelings? Nope.”) It’s terrifying yet exciting at the same time.
16. Wanting to kill people on a daily basis (don’t even deny it) because they act dumb, foolish, incompetent or plain annoying.
17. Having to deal with small talk. Like no, I don’t want you to ask me how my day was. I don’t want to ask you how your day was. I want to question the existence of humanity and discuss the mysteries of this world (and conspiracy theories! And a certain book/movie/game etc.)
18. When we have a fight with someone, especially someone who is close to us, we often end up saying very hurtful things that we know will hit the spot. It’s like a battle of words, and we sure as hell don’t plan to lose. So we play dirty, often hurting those who mean the world to us. Only realizing a couple of hours later that what we did was absolutely unacceptable.
19. We’re great with pre-project preparation and planning. Sometimes we get interested in something out of the blue, and spend hours researching it and making notes and planning things. But when the time to implement it comes around, we realize we’ve lost interest.
20. Spending unnecessary time perfecting something knowing full well that no one besides us would notice that folly. Sometimes being a perfectionist sucks.