How does an SJ type see an INTJ?

Hmm… I have an INTJ for a girlfriend and I got to know more of her INTJ tendencies over the years.

Her tendencies always seem to be the following:

1. Ability to see through things.

2. Reads between the lines.

3. Reaches conclusions through connecting information from various sources.

4. Doesn’t like unplanned, unscheduled, or spontaneous activities.

5. She’s a mastermind. Plans and executes her plans really well.

6. She’s quite reasonable. And I think INTJ’s are very reasonable.

7. She doesn’t like repeating things over and over again. So listen carefully and mindfully. If you need her to repeat, just admit you weren’t listening properly. hahaha… 😀 Which sometimes happens to me since I tend to jumble information.

8. She’s has quite a cold and snobby front. But once you get to know her personally or you’ll learn to love her traits and person as well.

9. She explains stuff very well, and usually is right 99.5% of the time. So that 0.5% percent are times when I’m right. But it’s not quite a big deal really.

10. She’s loyal.

11. She evaluates situation according to new information.

12. When you talk to INTJ, they do listen. Let them speak their mind out and you’ll learn a lot form them.

13. Make sure that when you argue with them, your statements, claims, or position do not contain B.S. If they do, expect it to be shot down instantly.

14. They have an inner world where they reveal vulnerabilities. Only a few get to be in their inner world. When you do get in, please treasure it.

15. Don’t take things personally when an INTJ snaps at you. It’s not you, it’s the thing they’re snapping is causing them distress or discomfort.

16. Lastly, INTJ are not impossible to love. As an ISFJ, I see my INTJ as someone who builds you up. Just listen to them, and you’ll grow into a more wonderful person than you’ll ever be on your own.

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