No. We do not get them completely. They just tend to be loyal so we trust on them and their abilities.
We are aware of the something being hidden that we do not see but we do not have to as long trust is there.
What does it feel like to be in a relationship with an INTJ?
Hello,
as an enfp and long time partner of my intj I thought I would answer this. It’s hard to take distance with your relationship so I will take the angle of “what differs from others”.
The relationship is very deep. I know couples around me who almost never have deep conversations. We almost only have deep and metaphysical conversations.
We have a lot of fun being childish. Very few people see this, but with me he is very funny and cute, almost like a kid. Together we are truly children, having fun and exploring. This was absolutely unexpected and other people could never guess this side of him.
I can count on him (and he on me, of course). I hear stories of partners who don’t show up, who don’t do what they said they would. This never happens. He is very reliable. This matters to me a lot and even though it is not intended that way I find it romantic.
He needs his cave. In many different ways. He needs time. He needs space. He needs his space. I need to do the same to bring balance, and be free and independent as well. Otherwise there could be resentment.
I need to be driving the notion of surprise and novelty in our long term relationship. Basically I sometimes have to have a conversation where I remind the benefits of keeping the mystery alive, be romantic and really, do something else than his work or his serious hobbies. Usually he agrees and at least tries what I suggest. I never expect it to come from him and I am never disappointed. I know for some people it could be harder. I feel his love for me in a different way that’s all. I also like that he is just keen on doing things with me.
Overall I am with a smart and kind man who lives up to his own expectations and it means a lot to me. Understanding and respect are key to happiness because he is a bit “different “ than what our society has showed us was a “typical behaviour “. I personally love this difference even when and if it drives me crazy 😉
How is the order of MBTI type, ordered by from the most likely to celibate, to the least likely to celibate? Could you explain each type briefly?
Could you explain each type briefly?No apparent logic, I’m afraid
- INTJ: Poor emotional expression; has no equals; has more important things.
- ENTP: Can’t stand people — people can’t stand her.
- INTP: Misunderstood; smells bad.
- ENFP: Don’t like commitments; will have what she wants when she wants it.
- ISFJ: Likes solitude. If she wants company, company will come.
- ISFP: Already married to herself.
- INFP: Problems with bonding.
- ENFJ: Already married to Humanity as a whole.
- INFJ: Bad experiences, but doesn’t like being alone.
- ISTP: Needs company but doesn’t like chasing. One is sufficient and secure.
- ISTJ: Won’t make it alone.
- ENTJ: Won’t exist alone.
- ESTJ: Won’t have any power alone.
- ESTP: Will feel silly being alone.
- ESFP: Will die being on her own.
- ESFJ: Will simply never be alone.
Umar Al-Konshens, I am an INTP, Enneatype 4w5 SP/SX
I’m not going to even attempt to rank all 16 types, but here are some famous celibates:
Isaac Newton – Lifetime celibate – INTJ
Immanuel Kant – Lifetime celibate – INTP
Florence Nightingale – Lifetime celibate – INTJ
Nikola Tesla – Lifetime celibate – INTJ
Mother Teresa – Lifetime celibate – INFJ
Ted Kaczynski (UNAbomber) – Lifetime, involuntary celibate – INTJ
Buddha – Celibate past age 35 or so – INFJ
Jesus – Lifetime celibate – INFJ
INTJs and INFJs dominate this list, so I would surmise than Ni Doms are most likely to be celibate.
I’ll note in passing than SP types tend to, as far as one can generalise, have high sex drives, so are probably the least likely to be celibate, and if so, involuntarily so. It also seems to make intuitive sense (intuitive sense, get it, lol) that Se doms would be least likely to not be celibate, so we will probably have ESTP and ESFP at the bottom of our list.
INTJ Empathy
INTJs are known for not being empathetic. Does this mean that it’s difficult for them to understand and accept others or does this mean that they don’t feel others?INTJs are known for not being empathetic. Does this mean that it’s difficult for them to understand and accept others or does this mean that they don’t feel others?
To answer this question, we first need to have an understanding of what empathy is and how it works.
At it’s core, empathy can be broken down into three main points, all concerning the feelings of another.
- Relating to them.
- Understanding them.
- Responding to them.
These are sometimes called somatic, cognitive and affective empathy.
But how do these relate to MBTI?
As empathy is concerned with feelings and emotions, rather than thoughts, it mainly relates to the functions Fe and Fi. For an INTJ, these are their 7th and 3rd functions (respectively).
Being Fe ‘blind’, INTJs tend to be thought of as indifferent and place little value on social harmony. In this sense, INTJs will often find it very difficult to understand and respond to the feelings of people in general. They may feel out of their depth when dealing with others being emotional and may rationalise empathy.
However, Fi is the tertiary function of INTJs and although for some, this function may be very underdeveloped, for others this can be one of their stronger. For the latter individuals, such as myself, stronger use of Fi can mean higher empathy, especially towards people who are close to them and/or have gone through similar experiences to them. This is because they can relate to them and understand what it is like to be in their position.
INTJs with strong Fi may find it difficult to express their own empotions or respond to the emotions of others, but often still relate to other people. This is where Fi empathy comes from- relation to experiences. Strong Fi-users feel deeply for others not so much because they can understands them as an outsider, but because and when they have been in that position themselves.
Hope this helps.