How To Outsmart A Narcissist The Right Way

We all would have loved to be able to outsmart a narcissist in the times when they are hurting us and when we are under siege from their malicious behaviour. But why doesn’t this seem to work? Why is it that many people don’t beat narcissists and in fact end up getting more abused when they try to?

 

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realized that this is a profound soul
contract and if we haven’t made the
unconscious conscious we will be showing
up in an unhealed in a childhood
container which means that we’re going
to be holding the narcissist responsible
for our wounds and we’re going to be
handing over a lot of fear and pain and
insecurity and neediness which hooks it
into the narcissist and into the whole
dynamic and we’re going to play out that
not winning getting our wounds smashed
more and more and more and more open to
get our attention to finally understand
that the narcissist is not the healer of
our wounds the narcissist is the
messenger of them because this is the
uncanny irony is that narcissus have the
most expert ability to find every
insecurity you’ve got every weak link
and target it with full intensity now is
that ironic
or is that actually really meant to be I
totally believe it’s really meant to be
because that’s what’s making our
unconscious wounds that were our normal
we were just bumping along in life with
them it brings them up in such a way
there’s no ignoring them so if we
understand that this is a soul contract
if we understand that the narcissus is
in our life exposing for us our
unconscious wounds to make them
conscious then what we’ll do is we’ll
stop holding the narcissus responsible
for them we’ll stop feeding the
narcissist with narcissistic supply
which is initially very very hard to do
because when our original deepest most
painful wounds are targeted and smashed
and they’re energized it’s very hard
to hook in and handover narcissistic
supply and fight back and be terrified
and incensed and devastated and all
those things but when we realize that
this is what’s playing out then even
though we are all of those things we
stop hooking into the narcissist and we
confront all of those things in our
bodies instead we saw partner we make it
all about that we heal we find those we
released some way up level them and then
when we do that we are freed from the
whole debacle and it’s such an irony is
that when we’re not realizing that we’re
in a soul contract with an aid and angel
in disguise and we’re holding them
responsible for our wounds we want to
outsmart them we’re going to try to
outsmart them but we never will we want
to get beaten up with our wounds more it
never works yet there are any years is
when we detach and we say you’re
actually the messenger just the catalyst
you’re the aid this is all about finally
being able to self partner and come home
in my own body and clean up my original
traumas from my childhood from my
ancestors from my beliefs from from the
screwy beliefs of humanity you know and
when I cannot level that it’s actually
not even about you and my ego is not
even invested at all because it’s not
about you there’s no ego in this is only
consciousness is only awakening and when
we fully stream into that consciousness
and awakening we defeat the narcissist
because there is no longer any fear or
pain or ego battle when we’re in their
arena in their vibration for a battle to
even take place we’ve up leveled to
another frequency here and another
emotional frequency another dimension
literally which doesn’t include egos
so they unravel and this is what happens
is the narcissist in your experience
will unravel come undone be defeated
simply because you’re up leveling and
transcending to another reality where
they can’t use any fear or pain against
you because we have to understand to
defeat a narcissist what is a narcissist
a narcissist is a false self and what is
a false self a false self is a
constructed image that’s not real that
needs energy outside of itself to exist
to operate it needs your fear pain and
attention and when you become self
partner to make it all about Europe
leveling you snap all of that off all of
that goes your healing any of the
original wounds that means that you were
hooked into a narcissist you leave it
all behind so the irony is when we
understand the soul contract we have no
need to outsmart and Isis as the only
need we had is to evolve ourselves and
then naturally organically we outsmart
the narcissist because we cut off all
connection so really hope that’s helped
and given you so much food for thought
about this and the truth of what plays
out with this so if you like my videos
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The Passive-Aggressive Covert Narcissist (Interview with Debbie Mirza)

Today I interviewed Debbie Mirza, author of a new book called The Covert Passive-Aggressive Narcissist, available on Amazon. In this video we are talking about the traits of covert narcissists, how they differ from overt narcissists and what’s the best defense against covert narcs.

 

A covert narcissist cares about what others thing of them.

A covert narcissist is very subtle in their manipulation.

They are not broadcasting their grandiosity.

Are often pillars of the community.  Often have good jobs.  Money is very important. Image is very important.

A covert narcissist can turn overt during the discard phase.  And some people can be a mix of covert and overt.  At some phase the mask slips and they reveal themself.

Overt narcissists are more impulsive.  The covert is more premeditated.

Going to therapy with a covert is the worst idea because that is their training ground.  Often the therapists is impressed with a covert narcissist and not see through them.  Therapy tells them where all the cracks in their mask is so they can fill it in.

A covert narcissist can appear vulnerable and in-touch with their feelings.

They can bring up past girlfriends to triangulate.

#1 Defense: you can trust yourself. You are your most accurate barometer.  Pay attention to your body.

Should You Tell A Narcissist Who They Really Are?

It can feel like a great idea to call a narcissist out and tell them who they really are. But can anything good come of it?

It can be a very emotional experience when we find the information that allows us to understand why this person behaves the way they do. And even though the information is shocking it makes so much sense. All the pieces add up. And at this time it is very likely to feel an intense urge to tell the narcissist who they really are. In this week’s video we deeply investigate the urge so many of us have to call the narcissist out and let them know they have pathological narcissism … I’m going to explain why you should never act on the urge and what is the most beneficial thing to do for you and your healing instead.

What Happens When Narcissists Get Old?

Understand WHY you want to know this. Maybe you are dealing with an ageing narcissist and feeling traumatised, because you are so tied into responsibility and duty to them. Or, perhaps you have been devastated by a narcissist, who seems to be having it all now, and you now wonder if the karma bus will strike as they age. This is normal … and TOTALLY understandable! But wondering and watching and still being hooked into the narcissist’s progress and results is SO not healthy for us. (I promise you very SOON you will understand WHY!) In today’s Thriver TV episode, I am excited to share with you the TRUTH about what is going on with narcissists as they age. And it’s my greatest desire that you will receive relief, closure and the added power to heal and move on into your True Self and True Life, as a result of today’s video. ⬇️