Do INTJs like attention?

Sort of.

We like attention that is accolades for our work.

We prefer to learn of these accolades in private.

We would be super happy to get that Nobel Prize, but would not want to be recognized on the street. We would love to write best selling literature, but we do not enjoy the book signing tour. We would love getting the Oscar, but we would hate the afterparty.

We also love being proven right, but we also hate being proven right because it means people never listen to our advice. We would prefer a “thanks for the great advice, everything turned out well,” instead of silently watching the slow moving trainwreck that didn’t need to happen.

My advice: find a smart INTJ, ask for advice, follow it. Ask for all the possible outcomes that could potentially occur and likelihood of all.

Everyone likes attention, but people differ in the kind of attention they prefer.

Why LAZY People Get Promoted AND YOU DON’T

You do all the work, while your do-nothing coworker slacks off and gets ahead. While it’s easy to let your lazy coworker drive you mad, and be bitter about being overlooked OR you can steal Slacker Chad’s tactics so you get the promotion at work that you deserve, big pay increases, and the praise you deserve.

CHAPTERS
0:00 Don’t hate the player… learn from him
0:32 Stop being invisible
2:57 Chad pays attention to this (while you ignore it)
5:18 He’s in favor with the right people

How To Outsmart A Narcissist The Right Way

We all would have loved to be able to outsmart a narcissist in the times when they are hurting us and when we are under siege from their malicious behaviour. But why doesn’t this seem to work? Why is it that many people don’t beat narcissists and in fact end up getting more abused when they try to?

 

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realized that this is a profound soul
contract and if we haven’t made the
unconscious conscious we will be showing
up in an unhealed in a childhood
container which means that we’re going
to be holding the narcissist responsible
for our wounds and we’re going to be
handing over a lot of fear and pain and
insecurity and neediness which hooks it
into the narcissist and into the whole
dynamic and we’re going to play out that
not winning getting our wounds smashed
more and more and more and more open to
get our attention to finally understand
that the narcissist is not the healer of
our wounds the narcissist is the
messenger of them because this is the
uncanny irony is that narcissus have the
most expert ability to find every
insecurity you’ve got every weak link
and target it with full intensity now is
that ironic
or is that actually really meant to be I
totally believe it’s really meant to be
because that’s what’s making our
unconscious wounds that were our normal
we were just bumping along in life with
them it brings them up in such a way
there’s no ignoring them so if we
understand that this is a soul contract
if we understand that the narcissus is
in our life exposing for us our
unconscious wounds to make them
conscious then what we’ll do is we’ll
stop holding the narcissus responsible
for them we’ll stop feeding the
narcissist with narcissistic supply
which is initially very very hard to do
because when our original deepest most
painful wounds are targeted and smashed
and they’re energized it’s very hard
to hook in and handover narcissistic
supply and fight back and be terrified
and incensed and devastated and all
those things but when we realize that
this is what’s playing out then even
though we are all of those things we
stop hooking into the narcissist and we
confront all of those things in our
bodies instead we saw partner we make it
all about that we heal we find those we
released some way up level them and then
when we do that we are freed from the
whole debacle and it’s such an irony is
that when we’re not realizing that we’re
in a soul contract with an aid and angel
in disguise and we’re holding them
responsible for our wounds we want to
outsmart them we’re going to try to
outsmart them but we never will we want
to get beaten up with our wounds more it
never works yet there are any years is
when we detach and we say you’re
actually the messenger just the catalyst
you’re the aid this is all about finally
being able to self partner and come home
in my own body and clean up my original
traumas from my childhood from my
ancestors from my beliefs from from the
screwy beliefs of humanity you know and
when I cannot level that it’s actually
not even about you and my ego is not
even invested at all because it’s not
about you there’s no ego in this is only
consciousness is only awakening and when
we fully stream into that consciousness
and awakening we defeat the narcissist
because there is no longer any fear or
pain or ego battle when we’re in their
arena in their vibration for a battle to
even take place we’ve up leveled to
another frequency here and another
emotional frequency another dimension
literally which doesn’t include egos
so they unravel and this is what happens
is the narcissist in your experience
will unravel come undone be defeated
simply because you’re up leveling and
transcending to another reality where
they can’t use any fear or pain against
you because we have to understand to
defeat a narcissist what is a narcissist
a narcissist is a false self and what is
a false self a false self is a
constructed image that’s not real that
needs energy outside of itself to exist
to operate it needs your fear pain and
attention and when you become self
partner to make it all about Europe
leveling you snap all of that off all of
that goes your healing any of the
original wounds that means that you were
hooked into a narcissist you leave it
all behind so the irony is when we
understand the soul contract we have no
need to outsmart and Isis as the only
need we had is to evolve ourselves and
then naturally organically we outsmart
the narcissist because we cut off all
connection so really hope that’s helped
and given you so much food for thought
about this and the truth of what plays
out with this so if you like my videos
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When Trolls and Crybullies Rule the Earth

How technology reshapes consciousness.

Over the past several years, teenage suicide rates have spiked horrifically. Depression rates are surging and America’s mental health over all is deteriorating. What’s going on?

My answer starts with technology but is really about the sort of consciousness online life induces.

When communication styles change, so do people. In 1982, the scholar Walter Ong described the way, centuries ago, a shift from an oral to a printed culture transformed human consciousness. Once, storytelling was a shared experience, with emphasis on proverb, parable and myth. With the onset of the printing press it become a more private experience, the content of that storytelling more realistic and linear.

As L.M. Sacasas argues in the latest issue of The New Atlantis, the shift from printed to electronic communication is similarly consequential. I would say the big difference is this: Attention and affection have gone from being private bonds to being publicly traded goods.

That is, up until recently most of the attention a person received came from family and friends and was pretty stable. But now most of the attention a person receives can come from far and wide and is tremendously volatile.

Sometimes your online post can go viral and get massively admired or ridiculed, while other times your post can leave you alone and completely ignored. Communication itself, once mostly collaborative, is now often competitive, with bids for affection and attention. It is also more manipulative — gestures designed to generate a response.

People ensconced in social media are more likely to be on perpetual alert: How are my ratings this moment? They are also more likely to feel that the amount of attention they are receiving is inadequate.

As David Foster Wallace put it in that famous Kenyon commencement address, if you orient your life around money, you will never feel you have enough. Similarly, if you orient your life around attention, you will always feel slighted. You will always feel emotionally unsafe.

New social types emerge in such a communications regime. The most prominent new type is the troll, and in fact, Americans have elected a troll as the commander in chief.

Trolls bid for attention by trying to make others feel bad. Studies of people who troll find that they score high on measures of psychopathy, sadism and narcissism. Online media hasn’t made them vicious; they’re just vicious. Online has given them a platform to use viciousness to full effect.

Trolls also score high on cognitive empathy. Intellectually, they understand other people’s emotions and how to make them suffer. But they score low on affective empathy. They don’t feel others’ pain, so when they hurt you, they don’t care.

Trolling is a very effective way to generate attention in a competitive, volatile attention economy. It’s a way to feel righteous and important, especially if you claim to be trolling on behalf of some marginalized group.

Another prominent personality type in this economy is the crybully. This is the person who takes his or her own pain and victimization and uses it to make sure every conversation revolves around himself or herself. “This is the age of the Cry-Bully, a hideous hybrid of victim and victor, weeper and walloper,” Julie Burchill wrote in The Spectator a few years ago.

The crybully starts with a genuine trauma. The terrible thing that happened naturally makes the crybully feel unsafe, self-protective and self-conscious to the point of self-absorption. The trauma makes that person intensely concerned about self-image.