Instant connection between an INTJ and ENFP is NOT guaranteed, just as any other relationship. Each INTJ and ENFP will vary from values, to quirks, and preferences. Although you can’t predict 100 % whether there will be a connection, there is a simple questions as a starting point:
At the initial meeting:
- Is the meeting one on one? Or is it a group setting?
- What levels of introversion or extroversion is preferred for each person?
- What setting are they meeting in?
- Work Setting
- Mutual Friend Setting
Humans are complex, and to make matters more complicated, the baseline for the initial connection may also change with new discoveries of each person. Funny story, as an ENFP in my early 20’s I had a mutual male friend that was INTJ, and our initial reaction to each other was very different from when we got to know each other on a deeper level. The INTJ wrote me off as an “air-headed” party friend, while I categorized him as distant, and cold at times. It wasn’t we ended up seeing each other in different settings that this changed, he was looking into different business ideas for selling anti-glare glasses.
INTJ: Here’s a sample of the glasses.
ENFP: Oh cool, you’re thinking of selling these?
INTJ: Yeah they have helped me, just need to get a plan, and need a name.
ENFP: Nice, you should look up the patent database, and business search to ensure the name, and branding is available.
INTJ: * A look of surprise* I didn’t know there was a database for that. I thought you were a bubbly party girl.
ENFP: Yeah I get that alot since there’s no reason to chat about these things in friend settings.
That’s when his perception changed.
My perception of him changed from cold, and distant when I was going through a tough time, and he offered up an extra room. He even helped me move. He was a man of little words, but his actions spoke so loud, I knew that people like him were just rare. It completely changed my perception, and made me understand that everyone is so different from each other. Each person has their own way of doing things, and that’s the beauty of it all. What’s the point of all being the same anyways? We’re just wired differently, and I always joke that if an INTJ and ENFP were to morph together, that we would just take over the world.