The president’s greatest ambitions are neither financial nor political — they’re psychological, writes Stephen Grosz
.. Does Trump’s invention feel to you — like it feels to me — a male thing? Let me pose a connection between Trump’s lying and masculinity. Masculinity is complex. For the most part, all of us, male and female, start life loving our mothers. But love is not simple. When a boy loves his mother, he will empathise with her thoughts, feelings and desires. He identifies with her. At times, he will even wish to be her. Because Trump’s in no one’s heart, he wants to be in all our minds One classic study asked three-to-eight-year-old boys and girls whether they wanted to be fathers or mothers when they grew up. Unsurprisingly, boys four or older wanted to become fathers, and girls four or older wanted to become mothers. Three-year-old boys and girls were different. As expected, most of the girls wanted to become mothers. But, unexpectedly — so did the majority of the boys. In other words, for a period of his childhood, a boy will want to be a woman. And it is upon this foundation — the desire to be a woman — that masculinity is built. In our “girls like pink, boys like blue” world, a boy quickly learns that he is expected to feel whole and confident of his masculinity. His feelings may be conflicted, shifting, but he is expected to conceal this internal struggle from others as well as himself. A “sissy”, “mama’s boy” or “wimp” will be shamed and humiliated, sometimes assaulted. To have a masculine identity, a boy must reject what he once loved. The upshot of all this is that a boy’s development leaves him with the fear that there is something feminine in him, that he’s not a real man — at any moment, he can be exposed as a fake. Trump makes heavy use of this fear. To show you how, let me take you on what may seem like a digression — Trump’s love of professional wrestling.
Let’s talk about how Trump is playing Kamala Harris like a video game….
Transcript
Well howdy there internet people it’s bo again so today we’re going to talk about how president donald j trump is playing and what his campaign against her says about him more importantly what it says that he knows about himself we’re going to do this because i made a joke in a recent video kind of an offhand statement the president said that men were bothered by the idea of a woman being nominated for vice president i said that wasn’t true i said that no men were bothered by that but maybe some little boys were i had women push back on that statement and say no that’s not true there are men who are bothered by it now to be honest had it been men saying that i would have written it off and just believed it was them trying to justify their own behavior but the observation was there ever since then i’ve been trying to figure out why that might be i found my answer in a 2015 study about video games specifically halo 3 was the one they used and they were trying to determine why women were subjected why women players were subjected to hostility they viewed it through the lens of evolutionary psychology and what they concluded was that female initiated disruption of a male hierarchy incites hostile behavior from poor performing males who stand to lose the most status i mean that’s funny in and of itself but there’s more to the study not just not just it determined that men who were poor performing that were low-skilled that they reacted this way to women it also determined that they were more submissive to players who were men look at trump’s interactions on the world stage look at the way he reacts to other world leaders this is why putin and people like putin can basically pull him around by his ear and then if you look at the way he reacts to world leaders who are women even if they’re not traditional world leaders look at the way he reacted to greta it demonstrates that this is true i’d like to take this moment to stop and point out that higher skilled higher performing men didn’t do this they reacted more positively but see there’s there’s one other piece to this politics isn’t a video game especially when you take it to the international stage it’s not like he can look at a screen and know that he’s poor performing know that he’s low skilled there’s nothing objective telling him this you know it’s not like domestic politics where he has poll numbers or something that he can go off of on the international stage this behavior has to be rooted in in his own personal acknowledgement that he is low performing that he’s low skilled there’s nothing telling him he has to know deep down under the facade under the image that he tries to put forth of being a tough guy deep down he behaves this way because he knows he’s a failure anyway it’s just a thought y’all have a