Attitude 1 would have been the wrong choice in these five situations. If the doctor had just given the mother the anti-nausea pill she’d been asking for, the son’s stress about being bullied probably would have just caused some other symptoms. If the surgeon had just given the woman the nose job she wanted, she would have been dissatisfied with the surgery and wanted it changed again. If the third doctor had just told the woman how to get off birth control like she wanted, she might have had a baby for the wrong reasons and regretted it later, leading to heartache all around.
A Man On A Mission: Give A True Count Of The Toll Of Mental Illness
“With our assumptions, the actual result is that 32 percent of global disability is a direct result of mental illnesses,” Vigo says. Another way to think about it is this: The original analysis blames a fifth of all disability on mental illnesses. The new analysis blames nearly a third of disability on mental illnesses.
.. Vigo’s bottom line is that the 0.4 percent of health aid dollars that go to helping countries deal with mental illnesses is not enough. “You cannot deal with 30 percent of the disability and 13 percent of the disability plus death with only 0.4 percent of the funds.”
How to Spot a Narcissist
They are enraged when told they aren’t beautiful or brilliant but aren’t affected much if told they are jerks.
.. Narcissists’ language and demeanor is often geared toward one objective: to maintain power in an interaction. Psychologist Anita Vangelisti of the University of Texas at Austin found that tactics in the narcissists’ toolbox include bragging, refocusing the topic of conversation, making exaggerated hand movements, talking loudly, and showing disinterest by “glazing over” when others speak.
.. “I allow a woman to feel the gift of really wanting me whenever I feel she needs to feel that,” notes Mystery
.. Because control is so important to narcissists, they can abruptly lose their charm if destabilized or threatened. This two-faced behavior is often the first clue to their true character. They get angry when rejected, overreacting to small slights and punishing those who do not support their grandiose image of themselves.
.. Back and his colleagues found that while students expected charming individuals to like others more, people with “self-centered values” actually dislike others more.
.. It appears that narcissists seek out people who maintain their high positive self-image, at the same time intentionally avoiding and putting down people who may give them a harsh dose of realism.
.. The narcissist who receives indiscriminate praise from his or hercaregiver as well as signals of coldness and rejection may come to distrust the praise and exist in a perpetual state of insecurity.
.. Graduate student Erica Carlson and her colleagues found that college students scoring high in narcissism rated themselves more intelligent, physically attractive, likable, and funny than others, as well as more power-oriented, impulsive, arrogant, and prone to exaggerate their abilities! In other words, they knew exactly how others viewed them. The study found that narcissists were even aware that their reputations worsened over time. They just didn’t care.
.. Campbell and his colleagues found that people who date narcissists are highly satisfied for about four months, at which point they report a rapid decline in relations.
.. On days when women were at high fertility, they were much more attracted to displays of social presence (e.g., composure, eye contact) and competitiveness (e.g., derogation of competitors), both of which signal the confidence that is the narcissist’s hallmark.
.. Men with narcissistic tendencies place much more emphasis on physical appearance than on an empathic partner, and not merely for the arm-candy factor one might expect. Narcissists are interested in “tens” [gorgeous women] in part because they believe such women may be most susceptible to their manipulative tactics!
.. Don’t try to change him or her. Remember, this person enjoys being a narcissist. The more emotionally attached you get, the easier it will be for the narcissist to manipulate you.
Do Girls Really Love Assholes?
SBK writes: “Bad boys tend to have lots of positive traits that come along for the ride of the badness such as good looks, confidence, creativity, humor, charisma, high energy, and good social skills– all things women find attractive.”
He also found that for men “one striking direct path to mating success stood out… low agreeableness; the lower the agreeableness, the more sexual partners.”
.. “[Bad Boys] don’t really ever commit to you, therefore you’re always chasing after them. The challenge!
.. These guys weren’t bad boys; they were just emotionally unavailable.
Non-committal, not ready for a relationship, whatever you want to call it– that’s it! That’s where the allure comes from. Not the bad boy himself, but his inability to commit.
.. Maybe for me, it boils down to this old saying, you always want what you can’t have.