6 things narcissist enablers say to you

 

Narcissists exist in systems, supported by enablers.

 

The narcissist had a tough backstory (which excuses their behavior)

 

They didn’t mean it.  (How did the narcissist enablers know this) gaslighting

 

I didn’t have any problem with them.  (Dismissive Invalidation)

(They had a different relationship with them.  They are narcissistic themselves or good supply)

 

It will get better.  Just be patient.  (This is cruel because narcissists rarely change and the narcissist faces no consequences.)

 

It’s not that bad. (minimization, invalidation, gaslighting)

 

Stop complaining.  They work really hard.

(They’re a good provider)

 

“There are two sides to every story.” Not when it comes to abuse.

 

“just think how much stronger that made you”, which is BS. The abuse didn’t make me strong. It made me insecure, it made feel worthless, it made me devalue myself.
“Look at the bright side!” “Quit being negative!” I know now that these enablers were narcissists themselves, criticizing and constantly attacking me for “complaining” and being “negative” about the abuse. These were my parents who got angry, then pushed me to feel guilty and ashamed for speaking up about the abuse from my partner until I stopped. As I was leaving him, he panicked and held me for there for nine days until a friend noticed I was gone and called police. He did monstrous things. My own parents (still his enablers) didn’t want me to cooperate with the trial. They used words like, “Show gratitude that you survived”, “Don’t call attendance to yourself” “Move on” “Stop Dwelling” “Pull your bootstraps up”. I testified at trial. He’s still in prison. My parents have had me on silent treatment for this since 2009, my father passed in 2016 and they convinced other family to be flying monkeys. They didn’t even like this man, they just expected me to be perfect and pretend to have a perfect life and relationship.

 

“Let bygones be bygones.”
“You are misinterpreting the situation.”
“That’s not what they said to me.”
“You are over reacting again.”
Bottom line: I’m wrong; the narc was right and so is the enabler. I’m the bad guy.
You can’t control what she says to you, you can only control your reaction to it” = you must ignore everything
“Family is everything/Family first” = you must continually forgive and forget all the comments/inappropriate actions that a family member says, including denying what’s happening within our family and outside of it
“You aren’t an angel either.” Especially when highlighting reaction to abuse. When you were a child.
“Be the bigger person”. Translation: Shrink yourself to fit the narcissist’s agenda.
“Don’t put me in the middle of it.” When I tried to relate to them about the abuse happening right in front of their eyes. “That’s just how he is.”
My father (enabler) about my mother: “she just wants the best for you, it’s too much love that makes her do that (mean comments, controlling behavior, silent treatment). One day you will understand when you have your own children”. My oldest is 16 and I’m still wondering when I will understand her behavior. Thank you Dr Ramani for making things make sense for the first time in my life!

ASKING POLICE THE SAME SILLY QUESTIONS THEY ASK US

https://youtu.be/Vfe714_TUec original link

I love how they think it’s offensive that he asked to look in their vehicle for alcohol or drugs, yet they do it to citizens every day, and their excuse is, “we’re allowed to ask.”. Yet after they ask, and are denied, canine is called, or the driver is placed in handcuffs, and suddenly they have glassy, watery eyes and see to do a roadside DUI test!

I love it how he turns the tables around on them!

U should have told him. He was detained n looks suspicious… Lol

I’d wish he was more brushed up and confident in asking for the ID

Next time…he should radio for more of his friends to come and surround the officers he is questioning. 7 or 8 of his friends should do.

This shows them exactly how it feels to be interrogated

1) “You’re shaking. Are you nervous?”
2) “How much have you had to drink today?”
3) “Is this your vehicle?”
4) “Where did you come from?”
5) “Where are you going?”
6) “What’s going on?”
7) “What’s the deal?”
8) “Got an ID on you?”
9) “You live near here?”
10) “Are you an attorney?”
11) “Where did you get your law degree?”
12) “Keep you hands where I can see them.”
13) “Why are you being so uncooperative?”

Guess he needs permission to give his ID talking to someone on his radio.

LOL you should have asked if she could wait a minute well you went and got a dog to search around her vehicle LOL my opinion

Gaslighting defined

Gaslighting happens when an abuser tries to control a victim by twisting their sense of reality. An example of gaslighting would be a partner doing something abusive and then denying it happened. Gaslighters may also convince their victims that they’re mentally unfit or too sensitive

 

  1. manipulate (someone) by psychological means into questioning their own sanity.

Is it normal for cops to gaslight?

It’s part of the game of interview & interrogation. If you just take someone’s statement at face value you are not doing your job as a law enforcement officer and investigator. Hopefully by questioning a person’s statement you will get the truth and send the right person to trial.

Gaslighting occurs for The sole purpose of harassment and no other reason. A police interview serves a purpose.

(both are done to achieve power and control over others)

What are some gaslighting phrases?

When you express your feelings to someone who did you wrong;

  • I am sorry you feel that way (demeaning, devaluing feelings and presuming a superior position in projecting blame onto you)
  • You have that wrong
  • That didn’t happen (attempting to make you doubt your reality)
  • You are overreacting
  • You are too sensitive (devaluing your feelings)
  • The latest one ‘it is better to be kind than to be right’. Twisting the meaning to suit; to attempt to make out you are the unkind one when calling out what they did wrong and/or were disrespectful of you. This is to make you doubt yourself (you were the unkind one) and attempt to rob you of your reality (gaslighting in action) – and when saying it to others, it is a character assassination (malice). In reality calling out disrespect and moving away from it is the kind and right thing to do for ourselves – always.
  • You will never find anyone else (went on to find my soulmate once I got rid of him. They see your strength and try and bring you down to make it your reality).
  • You have issues (demeaning and taking the superior position in the attempts to deflect from their wrong doing to make you doubt yourself, your reality of what they did wrong to you.)
  • There is something wrong with you (projecting)
  • You are crazy
  • You are weird
  • Oh isn’t she nasty or unsociable etc (when you move away from them respectfully – in comes the character assassination gossip).

Laugh it off and keep bringing the focus back onto what happened – the truth. As gaslighting is a means of deflecting from the reality of what they did to you. Stand in your truth – unmoved and do not buy into what they say. I zone out as soon as I here any of the above – one ear out the other. It is more likely to upset those with low self esteem and confidence. Build yours up and stand your ground and then they can’t touch you. Moving onto to those who are worth your time, focus and energy – those who respect and value you (including your feelings).

People who gaslight do so for various reasons. They are insecure people who cannot take responsibility for their actions. Usually for dominance and control when in the wrong and seek to justify to retain superiority. And they don’t want to take accountability for their actions that are wrong or harm – not caring about the others feeling or they don’t want to deal with their inadequacies or guilt – so they will blame and project. They will have trouble in all their relationships – and may enter into mutually abusive ones.

Stay with your truth and keep bringing it back when they deflect. Then do what is kind and good for you – move away from such people for good. To those who value your feelings and respect you – those worthy or your energy and time with head held high.

Police Allowed to Gaslight, but not officially

If I remember correctly, all police departments allow their sworn officers to “gaslight”, but they need special permission. Some do not allow the officers to wear their uniform while working a part-time security job. That makes sense because, if a gaslighting officer takes police action, and they are wearing their police department uniform, the municipality the officer works for may be responsible for any errors the officer commits. That makes the municipality liable to a lawsuit; and that’s not a good thing.

When you express your feelings to someone who did you wrong;

  • I am sorry you feel that way (demeaning, devaluing feelings and presuming a superior position in projecting blame onto you)
  • You have that wrong
  • That didn’t happen (attempting to make you doubt your reality)
  • You are overreacting
  • You are too sensitive (devaluing your feelings)
  • The latest one ‘it is better to be kind than to be right’. Twisting the meaning to suit; to attempt to make out you are the unkind one when calling out what they did wrong and/or were disrespectful of you. This is to make you doubt yourself (you were the unkind one) and attempt to rob you of your reality (gaslighting in action) – and when saying it to others, it is a character assassination (malice). In reality calling out disrespect and moving away from it is the kind and right thing to do for ourselves – always.
  • You will never find anyone else (went on to find my soulmate once I got rid of him. They see your strength and try and bring you down to make it your reality).
  • You have issues (demeaning and taking the superior position in the attempts to deflect from their wrong doing to make you doubt yourself, your reality of what they did wrong to you.)
  • There is something wrong with you (projecting)
  • You are crazy
  • You are weird
  • Oh isn’t she nasty or unsociable etc (when you move away from them respectfully – in comes the character assassination gossip).

Laugh it off and keep bringing the focus back onto what happened – the truth. As gaslighting is a means of deflecting from the reality of what they did to you. Stand in your truth – unmoved and do not buy into what they say. I zone out as soon as I here any of the above – one ear out the other. It is more likely to upset those with low self esteem and confidence. Build yours up and stand your ground and then they can’t touch you. Moving onto to those who are worth your time, focus and energy – those who respect and value you (including your feelings).

People who gaslight do so for various reasons. They are insecure people who cannot take responsibility for their actions. Usually for dominance and control when in the wrong and seek to justify to retain superiority. And they don’t want to take accountability for their actions that are wrong or harm – not caring about the others feeling or they don’t want to deal with their inadequacies or guilt – so they will blame and project. They will have trouble in all their relationships – and may enter into mutually abusive ones.

Stay with your truth and keep bringing it back when they deflect. Then do what is kind and good for you – move away from such people for good. To those who value your feelings and respect you – those worthy or your energy and time with head held high.

They don’t want to, they need to. This technique is how they get to the point of controlling you…essentially making you second guess yourself, the more the gaslighting happens, the more you second guess yourself until you start doubting yourself and feeling like there’s something wrong with you because you seem to not be able to remember anything correctly…making it easier for them to subtly start controlling you without you even knowing it…making you lean on them even more because they are being so loving and supportive…and the more experienced the narcissist is, the quicker this process happens…and the quicker this process happens, the sooner they can begin to unmask and show their true selves…and believe me, you ‘ain’t’ seen nothin’ yet.

Successfully gaslighting you over and over and over again. You now have been blamed for absolutely everything for so long………it’s been so drilled into your head that it’s always your fault, that you now believe that it really is all your fault.

So now…he can put even more limits on you…while he gets to behave and do whatever the h#|| he wants to do…because even if he cheats…or doesn’t come home at night…or spends the bill money on junk…or loses/quits his job…damages property…backs you into a corner…calls you every name in the book and then some (even in front of small children)…yells in your face…

…IT’S ALL YOUR FAULT…

…and when all of that is engrained in your head long enough…you believe it…and you spend all of your time doing everything you possibly can to keep him happy, but knowing that you probably forgot something that will upset him…or you’ll ‘stupidly’ ask him a simple question like, ‘How was work, hunny?’ or, ‘Hey babe? Did you get the gas bill paid?’ and completely set him off…and just when things settle down for a while and you feel like things have gotten better…you get up the nerve to finally try to talk about the eggshells you’ve been walking on because you’re trying really hard, and you tell him how much you love him and how you know he loves you too, and he tells you he does love you and then goes into all of his self pity stories and he ends up in tears…and he apologizes for his angry outbursts (not a real apology, just enough of one to make you think he’s being sincere)…and 15 minutes later, he notices that you didnt get to the laundry that day, and he loses his sh¡t and starts throwing everything around, and the kids are crying and he won’t allow you to go console them.

…and you believe it’s all tour fault because had you just done the laundry, he wouldn’t be so angy right now and so now you’re apologizing for upsetting him by forgetting the laundry and you spend the rest of the week trying to make that up to him…not knowing that you’ll NEVER be good enough…not knowing that you’ve been brainwashed…not knowing that you have no idea what kind of person you’re really dealing with…

…and until you learn about narcissism and gaslighting, you’ll have no clue what’s happened to you. All you know is that you are not the same you that came into the relationship.

Why do they gaslight??? To make you feel crazy and confused, opening yourself up to their manipulation because you feel like you don’t even know which way is up anymore…literally.

COPS AT THE DOOR SO DON’T OPEN IT

Never open the door. Unless they have a warrant, you generally have no obligation to have any contact. They don’t care about your best interest.

That innocent smile the last cop has while she tries to set the guy up to allow her partners to ruin his life and maybe end it , that’s terrifying: she is trying to create a situation where she can claim she was attacked so she can shoot that guy!

I am a former cop. No way would I ever open the door for the cops. No way. I have nothing to say to them and they have nothing to say to me. I learned that at the police academy.

Before channels like yours I honestly thought police had the power they act like they have. And it’s frightening for me to deal with them. Because they hold the power to ruin innocent peoples lives.

It is time for Cops to be held accountable abolish immunity We the people do not have to pay for their mistakes and ignorance of the law by violating our rights that they swore to protect

That blank look on that cop’s face when she said, “that’s fine”. That’s fine, is one of their go to lines when they are ignoring the public.

Did you see that one where the cop just wanted to look in the kitchen for him for just 2 seconds. She said ok come in. The police did a full search of the house despite her yelling for them to get out!!!!! Never let them in!!!!!

Never never ever open the door to the cops. You have NO obligation to open the door or even talk to them through the door.

The assault laws in this country need to be such that the owner of a house can PHYSICALLY remove a cop with NO business being there ONCE the owner has declined to engage in a conversation. This is BS! I know of few places where a home owner can physically remove a civilian, yet with a cop, it’s a crime! BS!

If they don’t have a warrant, don’t open the door. If they get a foot in, you’re screwed. If you don’t open the door, say “Leave now” and ignore them.

Absolutely right. The more they knock, you know they are serious about something that they WANT YOU for. If they knock and leave, it was not about you or important. And tell them “I don’t answer questions”.

Cops will push verbally or physically to get their way. They don’t care if its right or wrong. And when they are wrong, YOU will have to hold them accountable if they are going to pay for their actions.

>> THEY LOSE NOTHING EVEN WHEN DEAD WRONG! Don’t open door, don’t be NICE and talk! Their no 1 objective is to put someone in a CAGE!

Please make sure you have locks on the doors. These guys are evil

Even worse, once you open the door the cops can lie and say they smell weed or claim to see something illegal.

That last clip is a perfect example of those type encounters. The guy knew exactly what she was doing and called her out on it. Everyone should listen to Q, never open your residence to a police officer.

Without warrant they are just like anyone else. Without a warrant they have no right to enter or remain upon your property when told to exit, unless they witness something that makes an exigent circumstance. Unless there’s a warrant or a well defined exigent circumstance, they are just another other human. If they remain in or on said property after being told to leave then they are armed trespassers and an immediate threat to the security and safety. It doesn’t matter what question(s) they wish to ask, who/what they seek, or what gibberish they speak. They have stepped beyond the powers and authority of their office and have now taken up the title and role of criminal.

I used to totally support the cops but after neighbors calling on me for no reason I’ve learned to not answer the door and that ends the situation.

I have seen so many of their foot in the door tricks lately, that I thought they were actually selling vacuums. That being said, I learned on another site that you lose very important legal protections, once you step outside your home.

To be fair, the woman in the first clip didn’t open her door; the cops opened it and entered.

I just don’t answer the door simple as that and if they show up when I’m leaving or coming I just continue to leave or come don’t answer questions even if you might have thought you broke the law not knowingly never answer questions only person you need to answer questions to is your personal lawyer no one else

Thank you for sharing these types of Police encounter. The part i really really love about the young man at the door is when he tell the officer ” this is ALL ON VIDEO and it will show iv asked you several times nicely to leave, as soon as he says that, watch her face change and imediatly leaves his front door. Thank you lord for VIDEO and AUDIO phone cameras!!!!!

First words out of your moth are, “leave my property”, when they don’t leave, the next words that are repeated over and over are, “you are trespassing, leave my property”.
As you are saying that you call 911 and report that you have an armed home invasion in progress and they refuse to leave. Use the law against them.

Notice: the lady officer did not stop breaking into that mans home until he informed her that she was being recorded

Any cop that puts their foot through the thresh hold of the door is breaking the castle doctrine and can be sued directly and can’t use c.i to protect themselves because they knowingly broke the law and violated not only your 4th amendment rights they violated the worst of them all the castle doctrine

>> You are describing a situation where “law” and “rights” exist. IF the 4th amendment was so great, RARELY (close to zero) would an officer put their foot over the threshold. Best to prevent this by keeping your door and your mouth shut.

>> @John James i agree but if only it was that simple!

This is why we need to reform the police, the lady blocking the door is actually breaking the law, you have every right to shut to door in their face if they don’t present a warrant, you have every right to not answer the door to cooperate or answer any questions, these officers have this illusion that everyone has to respect and obey them when you actually have the power the use your firearm against an unlawful arrest or entry into your home as you would against any civilian during a break in or robbery

Don’t open it. If they wanted you, they wouldn’t be knocking! Once you let them in, they can walk through your whole house because you gave them permission to enter! Ignore them, let them knock!!!

5 years ago, I had 2 brainless badged thugs show up to my house; demanding to talk to someone who I didn’t know; and even when I explained I had no idea who they were talking about ; they were demanding to speak to this person. I was getting ready for a fight because they wouldn’t quit insisting on the person being at my house. It could have gone very wrong, but they eventually left after radioing their supervisor; he told them to leave.

Giving everybody here a time reference. The last time the cops came to my house, I sat silently where they could not see me and they pounded on the doors and windows for 23 minutes. Your mileage may vary.

0:54 – “If I’m not doing anything wrong, I guess I’m doing everything right!”
LOL, I like that!

So much truth in the words and the actions seen in this video… Its so sad you can see the officers were desperately trying to create a unsafe situation and people do know now how officer jump or put their body in the way to say they were assaulted where whey felt the feared for their life which ended up in a shooting… The African American male nor female can’t trust police officers with the heightened attacks murders assaults from white supremacy, race soldiers, etc… How can people trust someone that is know for murdering them… I dont blame these people for standing up for their rights that are suppose to exist for them as well as we Caucasian people. Its only fair to treat all with respect and with dignity. 👍 Too much has went on and its hard to trust anyone even during the pandemic… Safety first…😉

1) call your neighbors and ask them to film,
2) don’t open the door, talk through the door, and
3) video everything. What would you do if any other criminal came to your door?

It is illegal for the police to put their foot in the door when you do not want them in your house. That is crossing the threshold so they break the law on video and never get it trouble for it . Why not?

Ur-Fascism

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Suppose there is a series of political groups in which group one is characterized by the features abc, group two by the features bcd, and so on. Group two is similar to group one since they have two features in common; for the same reasons three is similar to two and four is similar to three. Notice that three is also similar to one (they have in common the feature c). The most curious case is presented by four, obviously similar to three and two, but with no feature in common with one. However, owing to the uninterrupted series of decreasing similarities between one and four, there remains, by a sort of illusory transitivity, a family resemblance between four and one.

Fascism became an all-purpose term because one can eliminate from a fascist regime one or more features, and it will still be recognizable as fascist. Take away imperialism from fascism and you still have Franco and Salazar. Take away colonialism and you still have the Balkan fascism of the Ustashes. Add to the Italian fascism a radical anti-capitalism (which never much fascinated Mussolini) and you have Ezra Pound. Add a cult of Celtic mythology and the Grail mysticism (completely alien to official fascism) and you have one of the most respected fascist gurus, Julius Evola.

But in spite of this fuzziness, I think it is possible to outline a list of features that are typical of what I would like to call Ur-Fascism, or Eternal Fascism. These features cannot be organized into a system; many of them contradict each other, and are also typical of other kinds of despotism or fanaticism. But it is enough that one of them be present to allow fascism to coagulate around it.

1. The first feature of Ur-Fascism is the cult of tradition. Traditionalism is of course much older than fascism. Not only was it typical of counter-revolutionary Catholic thought after the French revolution, but it was born in the late Hellenistic era, as a reaction to classical Greek rationalism. In the Mediterranean basin, people of different religions (most of them indulgently accepted by the Roman Pantheon) started dreaming of a revelation received at the dawn of human history. This revelation, according to the traditionalist mystique, had remained for a long time concealed under the veil of forgotten languages—in Egyptian hieroglyphs, in the Celtic runes, in the scrolls of the little known religions of Asia.

This new culture had to be syncretistic. Syncretism is not only, as the dictionary says, “the combination of different forms of belief or practice”; such a combination must tolerate contradictions. Each of the original messages contains a sliver of wisdom, and whenever they seem to say different or incompatible things it is only because all are alluding, allegorically, to the same primeval truth.

As a consequence, there can be no advancement of learning. Truth has been already spelled out once and for all, and we can only keep interpreting its obscure message.

One has only to look at the syllabus of every fascist movement to find the major traditionalist thinkers. The Nazi gnosis was nourished by traditionalist, syncretistic, occult elements. The most influential theoretical source of the theories of the new Italian right, Julius Evola, merged the Holy Grail with The Protocols of the Elders of Zion, alchemy with the Holy Roman and Germanic Empire. The very fact that the Italian right, in order to show its open-mindedness, recently broadened its syllabus to include works by De Maistre, Guenon, and Gramsci, is a blatant proof of syncretism.

If you browse in the shelves that, in American bookstores, are labeled as New Age, you can find there even Saint Augustine who, as far as I know, was not a fascist. But combining Saint Augustine and Stonehenge—that is a symptom of Ur-Fascism.

2. Traditionalism implies the rejection of modernism. Both Fascists and Nazis worshiped technology, while traditionalist thinkers usually reject it as a negation of traditional spiritual values. However, even though Nazism was proud of its industrial achievements, its praise of modernism was only the surface of an ideology based upon Blood and Earth (Blut und Boden). The rejection of the modern world was disguised as a rebuttal of the capitalistic way of life, but it mainly concerned the rejection of the Spirit of 1789 (and of 1776, of course). The Enlightenment, the Age of Reason, is seen as the beginning of modern depravity. In this sense Ur-Fascism can be defined as irrationalism.

3. Irrationalism also depends on the cult of action for action’s sake. Action being beautiful in itself, it must be taken before, or without, any previous reflection. Thinking is a form of emasculation. Therefore culture is suspect insofar as it is identified with critical attitudes. Distrust of the intellectual world has always been a symptom of Ur-Fascism, from Goering’s alleged statement (“When I hear talk of culture I reach for my gun”) to the frequent use of such expressions as “degenerate intellectuals,” “eggheads,” “effete snobs,” “universities are a nest of reds.” The official Fascist intellectuals were mainly engaged in attacking modern culture and the liberal intelligentsia for having betrayed traditional values.

4. No syncretistic faith can withstand analytical criticism. The critical spirit makes distinctions, and to distinguish is a sign of modernism. In modern culture the scientific community praises disagreement as a way to improve knowledge. For Ur-Fascism, disagreement is treason.

5. Besides, disagreement is a sign of diversity. Ur-Fascism grows up and seeks for consensus by exploiting and exacerbating the natural fear of difference. The first appeal of a fascist or prematurely fascist movement is an appeal against the intruders. Thus Ur-Fascism is racist by definition.

6. Ur-Fascism derives from individual or social frustration. That is why one of the most typical features of the historical fascism was the appeal to a frustrated middle class, a class suffering from an economic crisis or feelings of political humiliation, and frightened by the pressure of lower social groups. In our time, when the old “proletarians” are becoming petty bourgeois (and the lumpen are largely excluded from the political scene), the fascism of tomorrow will find its audience in this new majority.

7. To people who feel deprived of a clear social identity, Ur-Fascism says that their only privilege is the most common one, to be born in the same country. This is the origin of nationalism. Besides, the only ones who can provide an identity to the nation are its enemies. Thus at the root of the Ur-Fascist psychology there is the obsession with a plot, possibly an international one. The followers must feel besieged. The easiest way to solve the plot is the appeal to xenophobia. But the plot must also come from the inside: Jews are usually the best target because they have the advantage of being at the same time inside and outside. In the US, a prominent instance of the plot obsession is to be found in Pat Robertson’s The New World Order, but, as we have recently seen, there are many others.

8. The followers must feel humiliated by the ostentatious wealth and force of their enemies. When I was a boy I was taught to think of Englishmen as the five-meal people. They ate more frequently than the poor but sober Italians. Jews are rich and help each other through a secret web of mutual assistance. However, the followers must be convinced that they can overwhelm the enemies. Thus, by a continuous shifting of rhetorical focus, the enemies are at the same time too strong and too weak. Fascist governments are condemned to lose wars because they are constitutionally incapable of objectively evaluating the force of the enemy.

9. For Ur-Fascism there is no struggle for life but, rather, life is lived for struggle. Thus pacifism is trafficking with the enemy. It is bad because life is permanent warfare. This, however, brings about an Armageddon complex. Since enemies have to be defeated, there must be a final battle, after which the movement will have control of the world. But such a “final solution” implies a further era of peace, a Golden Age, which contradicts the principle of permanent war. No fascist leader has ever succeeded in solving this predicament.

10. Elitism is a typical aspect of any reactionary ideology, insofar as it is fundamentally aristocratic, and aristocratic and militaristic elitism cruelly implies contempt for the weak. Ur-Fascism can only advocate a popular elitism. Every citizen belongs to the best people of the world, the members of the party are the best among the citizens, every citizen can (or ought to) become a member of the party. But there cannot be patricians without plebeians. In fact, the Leader, knowing that his power was not delegated to him democratically but was conquered by force, also knows that his force is based upon the weakness of the masses; they are so weak as to need and deserve a ruler. Since the group is hierarchically organized (according to a military model), every subordinate leader despises his own underlings, and each of them despises his inferiors. This reinforces the sense of mass elitism.

11. In such a perspective everybody is educated to become a hero. In every mythology the hero is an exceptional being, but in Ur-Fascist ideology, heroism is the norm. This cult of heroism is strictly linked with the cult of death. It is not by chance that a motto of the Falangists was Viva la Muerte (in English it should be translated as “Long Live Death!”). In non-fascist societies, the lay public is told that death is unpleasant but must be faced with dignity; believers are told that it is the painful way to reach a supernatural happiness. By contrast, the Ur-Fascist hero craves heroic death, advertised as the best reward for a heroic life. The Ur-Fascist hero is impatient to die. In his impatience, he more frequently sends other people to death.

12. Since both permanent war and heroism are difficult games to play, the Ur-Fascist transfers his will to power to sexual matters. This is the origin of machismo (which implies both disdain for women and intolerance and condemnation of nonstandard sexual habits, from chastity to homosexuality). Since even sex is a difficult game to play, the Ur-Fascist hero tends to play with weapons—doing so becomes an ersatz phallic exercise.

13. Ur-Fascism is based upon a selective populism, a qualitative populism, one might say. In a democracy, the citizens have individual rights, but the citizens in their entirety have a political impact only from a quantitative point of view—one follows the decisions of the majority. For Ur-Fascism, however, individuals as individuals have no rights, and the People is conceived as a quality, a monolithic entity expressing the Common Will. Since no large quantity of human beings can have a common will, the Leader pretends to be their interpreter. Having lost their power of delegation, citizens do not act; they are only called on to play the role of the People. Thus the People is only a theatrical fiction. To have a good instance of qualitative populism we no longer need the Piazza Venezia in Rome or the Nuremberg Stadium. There is in our future a TV or Internet populism, in which the emotional response of a selected group of citizens can be presented and accepted as the Voice of the People.

Because of its qualitative populism Ur-Fascism must be against “rotten” parliamentary governments. One of the first sentences uttered by Mussolini in the Italian parliament was “I could have transformed this deaf and gloomy place into a bivouac for my maniples”—“maniples” being a subdivision of the traditional Roman legion. As a matter of fact, he immediately found better housing for his maniples, but a little later he liquidated the parliament. Wherever a politician casts doubt on the legitimacy of a parliament because it no longer represents the Voice of the People, we can smell Ur-Fascism.

14. Ur-Fascism speaks Newspeak. Newspeak was invented by Orwell, in 1984, as the official language of Ingsoc, English Socialism. But elements of Ur-Fascism are common to different forms of dictatorship. All the Nazi or Fascist schoolbooks made use of an impoverished vocabulary, and an elementary syntax, in order to limit the instruments for complex and critical reasoning. But we must be ready to identify other kinds of Newspeak, even if they take the apparently innocent form of a popular talk show.

On the morning of July 27, 1943, I was told that, according to radio reports, fascism had collapsed and Mussolini was under arrest. When my mother sent me out to buy the newspaper, I saw that the papers at the nearest newsstand had different titles. Moreover, after seeing the headlines, I realized that each newspaper said different things. I bought one of them, blindly, and read a message on the first page signed by five or six political parties—among them the Democrazia Cristiana, the Communist Party, the Socialist Party, the Partito d’Azione, and the Liberal Party.

Until then, I had believed that there was a single party in every country and that in Italy it was the Partito Nazionale Fascista. Now I was discovering that in my country several parties could exist at the same time. Since I was a clever boy, I immediately realized that so many parties could not have been born overnight, and they must have existed for some time as clandestine organizations.

The message on the front celebrated the end of the dictatorship and the return of freedom: freedom of speech, of press, of political association. These words, “freedom,” “dictatorship,” “liberty,”—I now read them for the first time in my life. I was reborn as a free Western man by virtue of these new words.

We must keep alert, so that the sense of these words will not be forgotten again. Ur-Fascism is still around us, sometimes in plainclothes. It would be so much easier, for us, if there appeared on the world scene somebody saying, “I want to reopen Auschwitz, I want the Black Shirts to parade again in the Italian squares.” Life is not that simple. Ur-Fascism can come back under the most innocent of disguises. Our duty is to uncover it and to point our finger at any of its new instances—every day, in every part of the world. Franklin Roosevelt’s words of November 4, 1938, are worth recalling: “I venture the challenging statement that if American democracy ceases to move forward as a living force, seeking day and night by peaceful means to better the lot of our citizens, fascism will grow in strength in our land.” Freedom and liberation are an unending task.

Let me finish with a poem by Franco Fortini:

Sulla spalletta del ponte
Le teste degli impiccati
Nell’acqua della fonte
La bava degli impiccati.

Sul lastrico del mercato
Le unghie dei fucilati
Sull’erba secca del prato
I denti dei fucilati.

Mordere l’aria mordere i sassi
La nostra carne non è più d’uomini
Mordere l’aria mordere i sassi
Il nostro cuore non è più d’uomini.

Ma noi s’è letto negli occhi dei morti
E sulla terra faremo libertà
Ma l’hanno stretta i pugni dei morti
La giustizia che si farà.

 

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(On the bridge’s parapet
The heads of the hanged
In the flowing rivulet
The spittle of the hanged.On the cobbles in the market- places
The fingernails of those lined up and shot
On the dry grass in the open spaces
The broken teeth of those lined up and shot.

Biting the air, biting the stones
Our flesh is no longer human
Biting the air, biting the stones
Our hearts are no longer human.

But we have read into the eyes of the dead
And shall bring freedom on the earth
But clenched tight in the fists of the dead
Lies the justice to be served.)
poem translated by Stephen Sartarelli

The 10 tactics of fascism | Jason Stanley | Big Think

Fascism is a cult of the leader, who promises national restoration in the face of supposed humiliation by immigrants, leftists, liberals, minorities, homosexuals, women, in the face of what the fascist leader says is a takeover of the country’s media, cultural institutions, schools by these forces.

Fascist movements typically, though not invariably, rest on an urban/rural divide. The cities are where there’s decadence, where the elites congregate, where there’s immigrants, and where there’s criminality.

Each of these individuals alone is not in and of itself fascist, but you have to worry when they’re all grouped together, seeing the other as less than. Those moments are the times when societies need to worry about fascism.

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Loyalty to the dominant group means law-abidingness.
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And the minority group is by its nature not law-abiding.
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Law and order in fascist politics means the members
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of a minority group who accept their subservient role,
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they’re law-abiding,
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and the members of the dominant group
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by their very nature are law-abiding.
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By definition, the leader can’t violate law and order.
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So law and order doesn’t mean justice.
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Law and order doesn’t mean equality.
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Law and order structures who’s legitimate and who’s not.
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Everywhere around the world,
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no matter what the situation is,
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in very different socioeconomic conditions,
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the fascist leader comes and tells you,
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“Your women and children are under threat.
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You need a strong man to protect your families.”
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They make conservatives hysterically afraid
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of transgender rights or homosexuality,
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other ways of living.
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These are not people trying to live their own lives.
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They’re trying to destroy your life,
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and they’re coming after your children.
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What the fascist politician does is they take conservatives
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who aren’t fascist at all, and they say,
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“Look, I know you might not like my ways.
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You might think I’m a womanizer.
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You might think I’m violent in my rhetoric.
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But you need someone like me now.
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You need someone like me ’cause homosexuality,
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it isn’t just trying for equality.
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It’s coming after your family.”
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Fascist movements typically, though not invariably,
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rest on an urban/rural divide.
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The cities are where there’s decadence,
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where the elites congregate, where there’s immigrants,
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there’s criminality, there’s Sodom and Gomorrah.
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In the city, there’s not real work.
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The pure, hard-working, real members of the nation live
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in the rural areas, where they work hard with their hands.
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When our politicians talk about inner-city voters
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or urban voters, we all know what they mean.
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Arbeit macht frei, “Work shall make you free.”
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This was written on the gates of Auschwitz.
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The idea is that the minority group, they’re lazy,
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and they need to be made to work.
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Free labor.
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The minority group and the leftists,
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they’re lazy by their nature,
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and it gives them a work ethic.
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Labor unions are run by communists
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who are trying to make things easier.
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Hard work is a virtue.
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In liberal democracy,
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we don’t value people by how hard they work.
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What would happen to disabled people who can’t work?
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They would then have no value.
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It’s why the Nazis had the T4 program to murder the disabled
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because the disabled were Lebenunwertes Leben,
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life unworthy of life,
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because to be valued was to be capable of hard work.
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Each of these individual elements is not
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in and of itself fascist,
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but you have to worry when they’re all grouped together,
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when honest conservatives are lured into fascism
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by people who tell them, “Look, it’s an existential fight.
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I know you don’t accept everything we do.
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You don’t accept every doctrine.
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But your family is under threat.
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Your family is at risk.
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So without us, you’re in peril.”
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Those moments are the times
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when we need to worry about fascism.