Being emotionally needy, narcissists want you to satisfy their cravings for significance. But instead of discussing their needs constructively, they use manipulative tactics to force you into their mold. Dr. Les Carter helps you spot their tactics so you can sidestep their efforts to “train” you to tend to their neuroticism.
The #1 Way To Identify A Narcissist
Narcissists don’t have a sign on them saying: “Hey, look, I’m a narcissist!” In fact, at times they can seem reasonable and approachable, at least for a while. Psychotherapist Dr. Les Carter identifies the most accurate way to determine if you are indeed engaging with a narcissist. Once you know what to watch for, you can proactively determine the best path to proceed.
“Fake Alpha” Narcissists vs True Alphas
Authority vs Competence
Force an Agenda vs Gives Time to Buy into an Agenda
Unearned Loyalty vs Earned Byproduct of Relationship
Thin-skinned vs Understanding Difference. Thick Skinned
Cult based on their Personal Preference vs Solid Ideas
Insistence vs Patient Planning & Process, dealing with problems that come up
Demand Obedience vs Creativity & Diversity
Desperate for Agreement vs Confident
Bullying, Threats, Name Calling, Derision vs Assertiveness with decency. Allows others Dignity
Has to be on top, Concerned with Rank vs Common Good
Self-impressed vs Humble
Exploitative vs Lifting Others Up
Appearance of Success vs Essence, Lets my Inner Being Speak
Angry Under Pressure vs Calm under Pressure
Short-term Brute Force
Life isn’t all about me. Life is about Us
DRC: dignity, respect, civility