INTJ’s aren’t the masterminds they think they are. Until they do these 2 things….


INTJs aren’t the masterminds they think they are. Until they do these 2 things… INTJs, as they’re called in the 16 personalities of Myers Briggs, often feel so misunderstood which tends to come with high levels of shame and pride. For them to really be the geniuses they’d like to be and reach their potential, it’s imperative that they 1. get out into the world and 2. are attractive to other people while doing it. For this reason, INTJ personality types need to develop their extroverted thinking and extroverted sensing cognitive functions. I also mention a couple facts specific to INTJ females. INTJ personality INTJ growth path

0:00 Intro

0:07How do the INTJ cognitive functions show up?

8:07Why develop these two things?

10:42 How to develop Te

15:13How to develop Se

20:35 What happens if you don’t do it?

Why don’t people take INTJ advice?

ENFJ here.

Most people want validation and not a solution. The INTJ is an analytical and logical type. They find holes in systems and processes. Their intuition (Ni) feeds off their logic (Te) and this causes them to give logical answers and solutions to problems. It goes against the nature of the majority and that majority just wants validation.

You ever been shopping with a friend?

You find two pairs of clothes and you try them on. You show your friend the clothes and ask for their opinion. They choose one but your mind says that it doesn’t seem right for some reason. You end up buying the one you wanted. All you wanted was validation. The INTJ would have given you validation if they found it valid in the first place!

And sometimes people just don’t want to follow the solution. It’s hard work for them and they assume it to be too energy consuming. Not just that, people are wired differently. You give them a solution and they may follow it with flaws or they may slip into their fantasy world where they overthink too much and get swallowed into this land full of unicorns and flying dinosaurs that distorts the initial idea of the solution.

Alright. Here is another reason why people do not follow the advice. INTJs are logical and they offer solutions that do not align with your core values that could be emotional. They might say:

“You need to be bold and straightforward with people. People will disrespect you if you let them. You should command! Blah, blah, blah.”

But being straight and bold could be scary for people. It means a higher chance of conflict which goes against their core values. Dominant Fi or Fe types can have problems following solutions that causes them to step outside their comfort zones. They want solutions that offer a win win scenario without conflict and without anyone getting upset.