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The Real Reason Why The Narcissist Came Into Your Life

Rough Translation:

so what deeper truths our gnosis is

showing us narcissus enter our lives

pretending to be the answer to what we

need to heal within us that we may not

even be aware of yet and then seize the

foe support and start to smash these

exact parts making the pain so horrific

that the unconscious parts become fully

conscious the narcissus first appeared

to be the savior of our wounds and then

became the messenger of them instead

so let me grant you my own example I

used to suffer greatly from fears of

abandonment and not being valid and seen

or being good enough to be loved this

was deeply unconscious because it was

all I’d ever known as myself and my

reality like many people who are now

statistically abused I was over

functioning and over compensating for my

inner unconscious traumas and I was

really practically capable I seemed

strong and other people would have sworn

that I had it together he had on the

inside I was battling anxiety and

depression which I had to keep very busy

and achieving goals to overcome

naturally because this is how this stuff

goes

I wasn’t gentle tender or supportive

with these inner parts rather I was

constantly self abandoning my inner pain

not making my feelings important at all

and being incredibly self-critical and

demanding and myself and again this was

my version of normal being only way that

I’d ever known to be with myself and it

was exactly what people in my life had

always modeled to me as well it wasn’t

until narcissistic abuse it these parts

that I’ve been surviving and covering

over came screaming to the forefront so

interesting because the narcissus in my

life initially appeared validating and

approving of me as well as claiming a

full commitment to me so they seemed

like they would never abandon me however

things switched and my fears and gaps

were over time attack with full ferocity

I was rapidly and cruelly abandoned and

invalidated and accused of being a

horrible person regularly my story is

your story because in this way our

stories are all pretty much identical we

see the narcissist as the answer to our

wounds often unconsciously we’re not

even realizing it hence the powerful

unexplainable unexplainable logically

bond to them yet their message to us is

to find and heal these wounds within

ourselves when we awaken and we get very

self honest this is how we know there

are parts of ourselves which are

unhealed we’re still sticking around and

frantically trying to make the

narcissist think and do it differently

we’re clinging on to that person trying

to force them to provide us with the

relief of these traumas get the only way

out of the nightmare is to let go of

these people and attend to those parts

that are screaming out for us deeply

within ourselves if we were a whole and

healed source to ourselves it becomes a

clear-cut thing we say I don’t agree

with your work

warped version and me you’re skewered

version of me and I have no need to try

to change you to have a great version of

myself goodbye see you later

and we are thrilled to discover when

that’s really true for us on the inside

and we actualize it we’re thrilled to

discover that we have zero urge for the

narcissus to provide us with ourselves

anymore and the longing desperation and

the missing ends as does the narcissus

power to hook you and hurt you if you

get the any healing job done well enough

and the narcissus becomes totally

irrelevant and whilst you’re becoming a

force of fearless calm power narcissus

let go and they move on with their life

both selves cannot exist in healed and

whole environments no more than germs

cat in a healthy clean environment

there’s nothing for them to feed off and

you may think that this is glib and

unrealistic I promise you it’s not

absolutely there can be complications

with narcissus that need to be unpicked

and sorted such as custody with children

property businesses and all sorts of air

measurements yet no matter how difficult

these challenges are I really want you

to understand that the greatest or most

deadly binds with narcissus are the ones

we’re suffering emotionally through our

wounds when we heal from these all else

can follow myself and thousands of

others have granted the overwhelming