By uncovering disturbing patterns that are as prevalent today as ever, philosopher Jacob Stanley reveals in How Fascism Works: The Politics of Us and Them that the stuff of politics—charged by rhetoric and myth—can quickly become policy and reality. Only by recognizing fascist politics, he argues, may we resist its most harmful effects and return to democratic ideals.
For this conversation Stanley is joined by Harvard associate professor of History Elizabeth Hinton.
Racism makes societies vulnerable to fascism
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look I’m white but it’s in my
self-interest to fight against racism
because it opens my society to fascismAre economics responsible for fascism?
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for family issues back in Ohio and I
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would go through rural Ohio but I see no
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feline annex and I’d see poverty and
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nobody Cambridge you about under and and
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it wasn’t covered you know and so I
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always say follow the money and there’s
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no money in the rural areas and
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globalism works in Boston and San
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Francisco but it doesn’t seem to work in
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rural America and so I always think that
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globalism is doomed and democracy is
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doomed if they can’t figure out a way to
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put rural Americans into this economy
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that doesn’t that that doesn’t seem to
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have happened I was I was in southern
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Ohio and a family gathering in Lebanon
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Ohio and the fireman was talking to me
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in there was part of the group and he
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said he’s retiring early because he
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can’t stand picking up opioid addicts in
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a little talons Ohio with 10,000 people
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he’s got a five six calls a day take
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care of over those people and people
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shooting out in cars
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so yeah and this is little little
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hometown you know Warren Ohio is dead so
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you’re raising a couple different relate
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related points but both very important
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first of all we haven’t talked much
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about political economy and I think it’s
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very important to talk about political
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economy as as a factor also in the
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factor in the far-right movement like
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what’s happening it’s all right now
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fascism is not fascist politics not
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being used to like buttress military
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empire as much as its used to other one
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other than Yemen and so it is but but it
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it’s being used to like funnel money
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into oligarchs hands and blah and sort
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of like throw sand in the face of people
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with genuine economic concerns but the
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OPA
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I mean it’s not just the rural Midwest
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like my partner is a doctor physician in
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New Haven New Haven Connecticut has a
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horrific OPA opioid problem I mean the
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pharmaceutical companies I mean they
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delivered a whole bunch of opioids to a
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lot of people and and it’s a problem
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that is the dhih industrialized areas
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I mean opiates horrific it’s like what
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60,000 deaths last year 70,000 deaths so
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so but and it’s it’s tricky figuring out
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you know Carl Hart’s work would say it’s
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it’s mainly an economic problem you
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solve people’s economic issues and
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they’re not gonna be opioid addicts but
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but but you’re you’re I mean one thing
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about the economic anxiety point is that
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if you look at who was affected by the
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Great Recession the group that was most
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affected by the Great Recession I think
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were people of color but they didn’t
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flee into the arms of fascism you know they
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didn’t start voting for or you know they
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didn’t vote for Trump so I I don’t think
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so it can’t I think that economic and
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and then you look worldwide my book is
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about the world and you look at Poland
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like the Civic Platform in Poland
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like the Civic Platform expanded the GDP
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radically Poland was doing really well
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economically and then law and justice
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came in and did all these tactics and
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one look at Bavaria one of the richest
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areas in the world Bavaria is filled
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with this you say oh say offer so the
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economic anxiety does not match all the
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areas it can explain it can explain why
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some groups in some areas fall prey to
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this politics but looking
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internationally the politics gets a grip
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and even looking nationally because it
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gets a grip on some groups and not the
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other others and if you look at if you
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look at and my book is about why it gets
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a grip when it’s so obviously a false
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promise and so in the United States when
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we talk about the poor working class we
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– we – the white working class we forget
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a chapter and Du Bois as black
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reconstruction is a poor white you know
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we have to talk about the psychological
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wages of whiteness we have to talk about
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and and the response is of course an
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economic response is a labor movement a
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labor movement you know when they smash
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the labor movements in the Upper Midwest
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suddenly people felt much more prey to
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this kind of politics and so you know so
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I think we do face this crisis we need a
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labor movement that’s why they went
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after the labor movement we’re in a
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crisis after the Janice decision and and
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so we have to rebuild the labor we
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wouldn’t give people economic hope I’m
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not sure it’s as globalization as much
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as it’s the lack of a of a of a labor
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movement in the United States
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I mean German manufacturing is doing
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fine and German labor is doing fine
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history and making history no but I
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guess how do you make it known
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given that the I mean given what you’re
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talking about you know the attack on
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truth the discrediting of sources the
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control of educational boards or
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institutions by people who might not be
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in their interest a place you know I
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mean so what I don’t know if that’s I
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mean if doing it’s having conversations
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like this I mean I think it’s it’s it’s
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really up to us and this is like in
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terms of thinking about what is the role
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of academics right now I mean people who
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do research is – it’s one I think that
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qualitative research in general is just
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D legitimized and it’s it’s dismissed as
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not being true despite the fact that you
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know my I don’t use my data doesn’t come
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from surveys it’s not in document since
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the ways in which I’m interpreting those
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documents just like it’s the ways in
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which other people are interpreting
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their quantitative data and so I think
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that you know right now the other kind
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of struggle going on in universities is
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the growing attack in many ways on the
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liberal on liberal arts in general which
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is tied to the developments that Jason
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described so eloquently in the book so I
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think part of it is you know doing the
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work of having discussions like this
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it’s amazing that there’s so many people
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here and we’re having this really engage
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an important discussion that takes a lot
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out of us but that’s I think part of our
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responsibility as as researchers as
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scholars as intellectuals to try to
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write in accessible ways Jason was just
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telling me that he’s been on the radio
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for like ten hours this week that’s
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doing the work that’s doing that
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important work and I think part of the
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difficulty is in many in in many
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instances we we end up kind of preaching
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to the choir you can only go on Berkeley
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radio so many times I mean
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– is also kind of moving into different
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spaces where we might be less
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comfortable when I get invited to speak
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with libertarian or white ring groups
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are I’m happy to go because knowing that
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I might be walking into an abrasive
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situation you know I tried to make my
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book and my research as undeniable as
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possible and I think the argument that
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you’ve laid out in this book is also
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undeniable and that’s how I think we can
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begin to think about re-educating
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correcting the false narratives and
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erasing the untruths the mythic past
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that’s been created in history is I
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think really historical work is really
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key to that we don’t know how we got
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here unless we really really understand
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the past yeah I just want I just want to
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say you know that’s why do boys ends
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ends black reconstruction at the
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propaganda of history and that’s why
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he’s so corny and capitalizes truth you
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know that’s that’s that’s what gets me
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upset when people attack for instance
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african-american studies as as has been
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happening a lot or Gender Studies
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because they’re trying to tell the
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actual truth of a story that’s not told
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and you know and that that’s that’s why
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dude you know Dubois is always so corny
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about truth see like he’s like you know
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when you know erasure and erasure is
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never truth you know so and of course
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the backlash is always like a little bit
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of like at Yale what happened the I mean
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I could have told my colleagues the
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English department they added googy Wafi
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Unga this this goes back to you they had
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a GUI hua Theon go to one course and and
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there were like 20 articles from
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right-wing media about how they’re
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eliminating Shakespeare at Yale and it
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hit them so by surprise I was like my
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colleagues in the English department
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like what happened what happened we’re
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gonna go as death threats I’m like yeah
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you added an African writer to a
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required course you know so that’s the
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and we we have academic administrators
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here they can tell you about this but
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there’s there’s you know the very ID so
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true like multiple perspective
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which doesn’t mean multiple perspectives
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doesn’t mean there’s many truths there’s
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only one truth that’s why Dubois
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capitalizes it but the truth involves
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you know that the Nate what happened to
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the indigenous populations as well as
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what happened to Dale Carnegie
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My Daughter’s Advanced Speech with Sarah | Real Life Aspergers Interviews
06:04and you also mentioned to me earlierthat anxiety is a big part of your lifeand one of the ways that you kind ofmitigate that is through the use ofroutines and sticking to things that youknow yestell me about how that is great and howthat is not so great I could talk abouthow like routines are great and howdoing the same thing is great or thetime to date like oh my oh my life Icould talk about it it’s great becausewhen you have a routine it’s thatfamiliarity so you kind of know what’scoming next you know what to expect andit kind of just makes my life happierbecause it’s not all the unexpectedstuff but in the same way because youlike routine and that kind of holds onto your anxiety as soon as one littlething changes that has such a depthtrend effect on my day to day lifeso say you have the same thing forbreakfast every day I have this I liketo have the same thing but then recentlywe stayed somewhere else came home andwe didn’t have any milk in the fridgelike I usually have the soya milk in thefridge we didn’t have any to then I waslike ah well now what do I do and myhusband who is an autistic he’d be likeodd just a toast but for me straightaway that’s like what else is gonna gowrong like what am I gonna do now Igotta think of what I’d do for this nowI gotta think about what my daughter’sgonna have now I’ve got to think aboutall these things so in a way for meroutine is like a key element of my lifeand it’s amazing and structure isamazing but at the same time then youhave this whole anxiety that thestructure is going to go wrong and theroutines gonna go wrong and then if itdoesn’t go right so the I guess the wayI feel about routine and things and andhow has your husband gone understandingthose things sowe’ve been together ten years now and soI’ve always been the way I’d been soI’ve always had problems with like food08:24and things and we wish there was anxiety08:25[Music]08:27so we thought that I was gonna suddenly08:30be cured by going to therapy and things08:32and then we find out I’m not gonna be08:34cured because it’s like I’m autistic08:36it’s gonna always be around so that’s08:38something we’ve had to kind of we’re08:40adapting to at the moment cuz it’s only08:42been going since kind of August so08:46trying to adapt to that and trying to do08:48it it’s difficult for him to and he08:52doesn’t understand everything I mean I08:55can’t say anything bad about him because08:57he’s been wonderful he looks up all of08:59the information and lots of people don’t09:01don’t want to do that but then I09:04sometimes my anxiety there’s then he’s09:06only doing that because you’ve got a09:07daughter who has it09:08so then I’m like ah you know he’s still09:10gonna leave me he’s still gonna do this09:12he’s still gonna do that why would I do09:15that when you’ve always been this way09:17so questions that it sounds like for a09:24big part of your life you thought a lot09:27of those artistic traits were due to09:29anxiety yeah which meant that you09:32thought maybe if I got therapy and got09:35less anxious then I wouldn’t do these09:37things as much yeah especially when it09:41comes to not socializing and not having09:44friends and things but then when I went09:48to therapy she said but you didn’t seem09:50like depressed and things and I said09:52what if I’m doing things that I want to09:54do I’m happy but everything I want to do09:57is on my own so I want to play like The10:00Sims I want to read I want to go to the10:03cinema by myself I want to do this and10:06I’m really happy when I’m doing that10:07then when I have to go out with other10:09people and do things that I don’t want10:11to do that’s when I’m worse and she was10:16like well that’s not depression and10:18she’s like how do was your anxiety10:20lasted and I’m like oh it’s always been10:22like this like I’ve always felt like10:24this it feels like oh and then she was10:27then Oh10:28after too10:29sessions with her she was actually after10:31the first 10 minutes of meeting you I10:33thought that you were autistic and she’s10:36like so now I’m kind of like referring10:38you full of this and to find out and10:40everything so and yeah I thought I was10:44just magic cure her but how did it feel10:48how did it feel to realize that you are10:51on the spectrum it was a relief because10:56I know like why I was feeling the way I10:59was for bite I life and why I had11:02difficulties with things in school and11:04stuff like I really struggled as well11:07like I didn’t like going to lessons I11:09didn’t like doing anything so it’s11:12really for that but at the same time11:13then I’m still kind of coming to terms11:16with it all because it’s kind of like11:18mourning for the fact that I’m never11:21gonna be the way I expected to be with11:25certain things because I thought all11:26once I’ve got this under control I can11:29do all of these things but I know I can11:32achieve some a bit but at the same time11:34there’s other things that are always11:35just gonna be the thing because it’s11:37just who I am and yeah if that make11:42sense yeah definitely so this definitely11:48gets kind of like know that there’s11:50reason for things and now I can11:52appreciate Who I am for who I am as11:56opposed to trying to change myself to11:58fit in how everybody else thinks that12:01you should be yeah definitely makes12:05sense and so finally what would you say12:12to other women out there who maybe12:15they’ve got a daughter on the spectrum12:16or maybe they are starting to get clues12:19that well people are suggesting you12:21might be on the spectrum this might be12:23explaining things for you what would you12:25say to them obviously I would say to do12:29their research autism and stuff is very12:32different with girls than it is boys a12:35lot of the research and things and12:38diagnosis has to do with boys and not go12:41so you’ve got to find yourself a really12:42good doctor as well here at12:44understands it within females and how12:46they find it look I found help in like12:51Facebook groups and that just reached12:53out to other people who are on the12:55spectrum I found people really helpful12:57they’re really open to talking about12:58their struggles and what they think but13:01yeah for me it’s just if you think is do13:05your research and look at different13:07things go on YouTube that’s it’s amazing13:10to find creatures who will actually talk13:12about subject and yeah I think that’s13:16the best advice I can give it it’s just13:18if you think you are you probably are13:20because if you’re thinking that you are13:22it’s not a normal thing to think that13:24you’re autistic apparently yeah I think13:29oh I think I might be autistic it’s not13:32something that you generally think so if13:34you’re thinking that you are then you13:37know it’s we’re actually looking more13:39into it because you’ll probably end up13:42finding out that you actually are13:44autistic and and for me personally what13:46made the biggest difference was13:48physically meeting in person other13:51autistic people so a support group even13:56before I knew I just said can I come13:58along lesson yes so yeah see where I am14:01to get the support you have to have like14:04the official diagnosis and the waiting14:07list of really long so at the moment14:09hard to see that but meeting other14:13people with autism and stuff especially14:15people your age I think is a really14:17important thing so that’s why I’m kind14:20of reaching out to other Creators and14:22start from towards and that’s why14:24eventually I’ll upload a video that’s a14:28good segue because you and your blog a14:31YouTube blog right yeah yeah we’d say I14:35have a blog but I talk about other14:37disabilities with and it’s just getting14:39the confidence up and getting past the14:41anxiety like whoa to actually talk about14:45it and be heard about it and stuff and14:48it’s something that I want to pursue14:50more of talking about it and actually14:51you know yeah14:57yes well it’s it’s great to have14:59different voices out there and I’m sure15:03lots of people will resonate strongly15:06with you and your story what’s the name15:09of your YouTube channel15:10it’s a mundane life and if you just15:14search that it will come up no one else15:18wants to be called a mundane life no15:20nobody else wants to be like ordinary15:22and warranty they but yeah I guess now15:25it’s quite an ironic name because autism15:28as well there’s anything but mundanes15:31none of what you described okay mundane15:36okay well thanks Sarah it’s been really15:39it’s been really great to talk to you oh15:41I’ll put a link to your channel in the15:44description below so I think everyone15:48watching has enjoyed today’s espy15:51interview and I’ll be endeavoring to do15:55some more in the future because I15:57believe that the best way to understand15:59autism and the diversity in the autism16:01spectrum is to meet others on the16:05spectrum so this is one way I’m trying16:07to elderly okay well thanks and thanks16:12for your time – Sarah right no problem16:14thank you Ray16:23you
Khamenei Wants to Put Iran’s Stamp on Reprisal for U.S. Killing of Top General
In a departure from Iran’s usual tactics of hiding behind proxies, the country’s supreme leader wants any retaliation for the killing of a top military commander to be carried out openly by Iranian forces.
In the tense hours following the American killing of a top Iranian military commander, the country’s supreme leader, Ayatollah Ali Khamenei, made a rare appearance at a meeting of the government’s National Security Council to lay down the parameters for any retaliation. It must be a direct and proportional attack on American interests, he said, openly carried out by Iranian forces themselves, three Iranians familiar with the meeting said Monday.
It was a startling departure for the Iranian leadership. Since the establishment of the Islamic Republic in 1979, Tehran had almost always cloaked its attacks behind the actions of proxies it had cultivated around the region. But in the fury generated by the killing of the military commander, Maj. Gen. Qassim Suleimani, a close ally and personal friend of the supreme leader, the ayatollah was willing to cast aside those traditional cautions.
The nation’s anger over the commander’s death was on vivid display Monday, as hundreds of thousands of Iranians poured into the streets of Tehran for a funeral procession and Mr. Khamenei wept openly over the coffin.
After weeks of furious protests across the country against corruption and misrule, both those who had criticized and supported the government marched together, united in outrage. Subway trains and stations were packed with mourners hours before dawn, and families brought children carrying photographs of General Suleimani.
A reformist politician, Sadegh Kharazi, said he had not seen crowds this size since the 1989 funeral of the Islamic Republic’s founder, Ayatollah Ruhollah Khomeini.
“We are ready to take a fierce revenge against America,” Gen. Hamid Sarkheili of the Revolutionary Guard, declared to the throng. “American troops in the Persian Gulf and in Iraq and Syria are within our reach.”
“No negotiations or deal, only war with America,” students chanted in an online video from a university campus.
A renowned eulogist and member of the Revolutionary Guard, Sadegh Ahangaran, exhorted the funeral crowds to raise their voices so “damned America can hear you” and to “wave the flags in preparation for war.”
The increasingly public vows of direct action on Monday constituted Iran’s latest act of defiance to President Trump. Over the weekend the president had repeatedly threatened to retaliate for any attacks against American interests by ordering airstrikes against as many as 52 potential targets, one for each of the American hostages held after the seizure of the United States embassy in Tehran in 1979.
In response, Iran’s moderate president, Hassan Rouhani, on Monday responded with his own numerology. “Those who refer to the number 52 should also remember the number 290,” he said on Twitter, a reference to the 290 people killed in 1988 in the accidental downing of an Iranian airliner by an American warship. “Never threaten the Iranian nation,” Mr. Rouhani added.
Where, when and even if Iran may choose to retaliate remains a matter of speculation. As Iranian leaders weighed just what form it might take, analysts said the targets included American troops in neighboring Syria and Iraq, American bases in the Persian Gulf or American embassies or diplomats almost anywhere.
When previous attempts at direct strikes or assassinations have proved unsuccessful, some noted, Iranian-backed militants have turned to the simpler tactic of killing civilians with terrorist bombs.
This was the sequence in 2012 with the Iranian-backed Lebanese group Hezbollah. After failing in attempts to attack Israeli targets or kill Israeli officials in revenge for the killing of one of the group’s leaders, the militants eventually settled on the easier job of bombing a bus load of Israeli tourists in Bulgaria, said Afshon Ostovar, a scholar of Iran at the Naval Postgraduate School.
“We are in uncharted territory, and the truth of the matter is nobody knows how Iran is going to respond. I don’t think even Iran knows,” Mr. Ostovar said. “But I think there is a blood lust right now in the Revolutionary Guards.”
In Iraq, where the Parliament had earlier called for the immediate expulsion of the 5,000 American troops stationed there, Prime Minister Mahdi on Monday listed steps to curtail the troops’ movements.
While plans were being made for departure of the Americans, he said, they will now be limited to “training and advising” Iraqi forces, required to remain within the bases and barred from Iraqi air space.
Mr. Mahdi met with Matthew Tueller, the American ambassador to Iraq, on Monday, and “stressed the need for joint action to implement the withdrawal,” according to a statement and photo released by Mr. Mahdi’s office. He also emphasized Iraq’s efforts to prevent the current tensions between Iran and the United States from sliding into “open war.”
The United States military stirred a media flurry by accidentally releasing a draft letter that seemed to describe imminent plans to withdraw from Iraq. Marine Corps Brig. Gen. William H. Seely III, the commander of the United States forces in Iraq, wrote to the Iraqi government that the American troops would be relocated “to prepare for onward movement.”
“We respect your sovereign decision to order our departure,” he wrote.
But Defense Department officials played down the significance of the letter. “Here’s the bottom line, this was a mistake,” General Mark A. Milley, President Trump’s top military commander, told reporters at the Pentagon during a hastily called press briefing. “It’s a draft unsigned letter because we are moving forces around.”
“There’s been no decision whatsoever to leave Iraq,” Mark T. Esper, the defense secretary, told reporters. “There’s been no decision made to leave Iraq. Period.”
Although the Trump administration has said that the United States killed General Suleimani because he was planning imminent attacks against American interests, there were indications Monday that he may have been leading an effort to calm tensions with Saudi Arabia.
Prime Minister Adel Abdul Mahdi of Iraq said that he was supposed to meet with General Suleimani on the morning he was killed, and that he expected him to bring messages from the Iranians that might help to “reach agreements and breakthroughs important for the situation in Iraq and the region.”
In Washington, two top Senate Democrats urged President Trump early Monday to declassify the administration’s formal notification to Congress giving notice of the airstrike that killed General Suleimani.
Such notification of Congress is required by law, and to classify the entirety of such a notification is highly unusual.
Senator Chuck Schumer of New York, the Democratic leader, and Senator Robert Menendez of New Jersey, the top Democrat on the Foreign Relations Committee, said in a joint statement that it was “critical that national security matters of such import be shared with the American people in a timely manner.”
And Senator Mitch McConnell, the Republican leader, urged Mr. Trump’s critics not to jump to conclusions. “Unfortunately, in this toxic political environment, some of our colleagues rushed to blame our own government before even knowing the facts,” he said.
For its part, Iran simultaneously continued a months-long push against the Trump administration over its demands that Tehran submit to a more restrictive renegotiation of a 2015 accord with the Western powers over its nuclear research. The Trump administration has sought to pressure Iran by devastating its economy with sweeping economic sanctions, which Iranian officials have denounced as economic warfare.
The sanctions set off the cycle of attacks and counterattacks that culminated last week in the killing of General Suleimani. Iran has also responded with carefully calibrated steps away from the deal’s limits on its nuclear program. On Sunday, Iranian officials said that they had now abandoned all restrictions on the enrichment of uranium, though they said they would continue to admit inspectors from the International Atomic Energy Agency.
Amid the emotion of the funeral, some called for vengeance that would remake the region. “Even if we attack all of U.S. bases and even if we kill Trump himself it’s not enough revenge,” Brig. Gen Amir Ali HajiZadeh said at the funeral. “We must totally eliminate all U.S. troops from the region.”
For now, Iranian officials seem to be in no rush to strike back against the United States, possibly enjoying their ability to spread anxiety throughout the West. They seem content to
- bask in the nationalist surge in their popularity,
- growing international sympathy and the push to
- expel the American troops from Iraq.
“I don’t think they want to shift the conversation yet,” said Sanam Vakil, a scholar of Iran at Chatham House, a research center in London.
But for the hard-liners who dominate the Iranian National Security Council, she said, some vigorous retaliation would be the only rational response. “A non-response would appear weak and invite further pressure, creating problems in domestic politics and internationally,” she said.
The Real Reason Why The Narcissist Came Into Your Life
Rough Translation:
so what deeper truths our gnosis isshowing us narcissus enter our livespretending to be the answer to what weneed to heal within us that we may noteven be aware of yet and then seize thefoe support and start to smash theseexact parts making the pain so horrificthat the unconscious parts become fullyconscious the narcissus first appearedto be the savior of our wounds and thenbecame the messenger of them insteadso let me grant you my own example Iused to suffer greatly from fears ofabandonment and not being valid and seenor being good enough to be loved thiswas deeply unconscious because it wasall I’d ever known as myself and myreality like many people who are nowstatistically abused I was overfunctioning and over compensating for myinner unconscious traumas and I wasreally practically capable I seemedstrong and other people would have swornthat I had it together he had on theinside I was battling anxiety anddepression which I had to keep very busyand achieving goals to overcomenaturally because this is how this stuffgoesI wasn’t gentle tender or supportivewith these inner parts rather I wasconstantly self abandoning my inner painnot making my feelings important at alland being incredibly self-critical anddemanding and myself and again this wasmy version of normal being only way thatI’d ever known to be with myself and itwas exactly what people in my life hadalways modeled to me as well it wasn’tuntil narcissistic abuse it these partsthat I’ve been surviving and coveringover came screaming to the forefront sointeresting because the narcissus in mylife initially appeared validating andapproving of me as well as claiming afull commitment to me so they seemedlike they would never abandon me howeverthings switched and my fears and gapswere over time attack with full ferocityI was rapidly and cruelly abandoned andinvalidated and accused of being ahorrible person regularly my story isyour story because in this way ourstories are all pretty much identical wesee the narcissist as the answer to ourwounds often unconsciously we’re noteven realizing it hence the powerfulunexplainable unexplainable logicallybond to them yet their message to us isto find and heal these wounds withinourselves when we awaken and we get veryself honest this is how we know thereare parts of ourselves which areunhealed we’re still sticking around andfrantically trying to make thenarcissist think and do it differentlywe’re clinging on to that person tryingto force them to provide us with therelief of these traumas get the only wayout of the nightmare is to let go ofthese people and attend to those partsthat are screaming out for us deeplywithin ourselves if we were a whole andhealed source to ourselves it becomes aclear-cut thing we say I don’t agreewith your workwarped version and me you’re skeweredversion of me and I have no need to tryto change you to have a great version ofmyself goodbye see you laterand we are thrilled to discover whenthat’s really true for us on the insideand we actualize it we’re thrilled todiscover that we have zero urge for thenarcissus to provide us with ourselvesanymore and the longing desperation andthe missing ends as does the narcissuspower to hook you and hurt you if youget the any healing job done well enoughand the narcissus becomes totallyirrelevant and whilst you’re becoming aforce of fearless calm power narcissuslet go and they move on with their lifeboth selves cannot exist in healed andwhole environments no more than germscat in a healthy clean environmentthere’s nothing for them to feed off andyou may think that this is glib andunrealistic I promise you it’s notabsolutely there can be complicationswith narcissus that need to be unpickedand sorted such as custody with childrenproperty businesses and all sorts of airmeasurements yet no matter how difficultthese challenges are I really want youto understand that the greatest or mostdeadly binds with narcissus are the oneswe’re suffering emotionally through ourwounds when we heal from these all elsecan follow myself and thousands ofothers have granted the overwhelming