How romantic are INTJs?
I answered this somewhere else quite awhile back, but I’ll share my experience.
INTJ’s are not conventionally romantic like we see in Hallmark movies or on Valentine’s Day. Quite the opposite actually.
What comes across as romantic to me, is their total devotion to understanding their chosen one by studying them with an almost obsessive intensity. They want to know every aspect of you in the deepest, broadest, most accurate way possible. Part of this is because they want to understand and please you, and the other part is because they don’t like surprises and need to feel secure before they let you into their rich inner world. They absolutely will not show their soft underbelly to just anyone.
No other type goes to the lengths I have seen an INTJ go to, in order to bring you into their world.
Their whole being is authentically romantic if you define romance the way I have experienced it. Keep your Hallmark cards and obligatory flowers on Valentine’s Day. I’ll take the exquisiteness of an INTJ’s version of romance any day of the year. They don’t do obligatory. They act when they feel it, and if they feel it, it’s deep.