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Why are ENFPs infatuated to INTJs?

They are fascinating to us.

So calm, quiet, reserved private. We are eager to know more. Us ENFP’s find it easy to read people and get to know people pretty quickly, we have this skill of communication where we can just know if someone’s a good or bad person deep down. We can read people’s emotions very well, and that’s a strength we have.

Until we’ve met INTJ’s.

Indeed yes I am a female ENFP, and yes I fancy an INTJ male. What makes us so drawn to them is the fact they’re the only type we CAN’T READ. They are so impossible to read, and that intrigues us to the max. We wanna learn more and get to know them. We have this need to go deeper, because we know there is something so deep within. We are fascinated. Also the fact they’re so organised, passionate, calm, so private and just interesting people. We could talk for hours and not get bored. We also understand their need for space. They’re just such rare and fascinating humans. We want to dig deep and see what’s within an INTJ. What lurks there. We love INTJ’s. Also their minds are so desirable, we love listening and could listen and talk and ask millions of questions to an INTJ and never get bored.

This answer matches 100% what the ENFPs I know have told me. I’m INTJ and I asked them this out of curiosity.

Let me give you a hot tip.

Talk less.

Listen and UNDERSTAND more. Try to comprehend the benefit of comfortable silences with yr INTJ friends. Not all knowledge of is verbal. And if they every trust you enough to talk about how they are feeling, you better listen, not talk about how you are feeling. We already know how you feel, you never stop taljing about it.

I find most ENFPs to be motor mouths content with one way conversations, and while willing, unable to actually focus to benefit from deep conversations, as they then hop onto the next thought.

When younger I loved you guys, lots of fun. But not so in my old age. I prefer silence.

Yeah, they say it’s because we (INTJ) are deep and stuff but, while this can be true, maybe it’s because we’re one of the few types who knows how to shut up and actually listen to what the other person is saying, instead of just waiting for their turn to speak.

I had an experience similar to yours. Don’t know about their types, but I used to like having deep conversations with extraverted people. But then I realized that for them it was just chit chat that they’d rarely remember a week later (like most of what they talk about) so now I rather be in silence as well

Because every word has meaning, and they usually don’t take the time to casually interact with others. 😊