What types of things can be said or done to calm an INFJ down?
It is rare, the INFJ storm. It is rare because the INFJ is smooth and calm from the beginning. They will not step bounds unless they are pushed to their limits. The limits can stretch quite long but limits nonetheless.
Once an INFJs storm begins, it can be difficult to stop them. From door-slamming to telling you awful truths about yourself to exposing your lies, the INFJ will see to it that you have burned down.
Like I said before, it is rare.
Here are a few pointers you can use to calm an INFJ down:
- Purpose. Remind them of their higher purpose and how what they are doing while angry does not relate to that. This makes them pause and rethink.
- Ethics. Remind your INFJ that they are causing a scene, or destroying the very harmony they have created. In a social gathering, tell them they are being loud, and that people are starting to stare. This triggers their extraverted feeling into cooling down as they are always aiming to create harmony. Sometimes sacrificing their own wants and needs.
- Appreciation. Be grateful for what they do for you. Appreciate them for who they are. Be sincere, they will know when you aren’t.
- Sincere. Tell your INFJ that you apologize for what you have done. Be sincere as they can detect it. For the future be consistent with them about everything. Consistent, honest, and open.
If you want to know how to convince an INFJ to accept your ideas, read here.