There is such a thing as a good narcissist, I know one. What’s the good in one narc?

There is such a thing as a good narcissist, I know one. What’s the good in one narc?

I can relate to what you are saying because (for some crazy reason) the universe keep aligning me with narcissistic people. I’m recalling a couple of them, a male (overt) and my wife (covert).

I have to say the overt womanising never got any money of his own male is an obnoxious ahole. You can read him like a book and you soon learn he has no redeeming features. His character was shallow. Was there anything good about him? No. You instinctively knew he was a bad apple.

But there was a certain easy feeling around him. All narcs are quite social.

But my wife, the covert type, when pressed she is very dark, a well advanced narcissist with psychopathy i’m sure of it. But when she is not triggered she is in many ways easy to get along with too, she is generous, friendly, even fair. But this “good” side is always in conflict with the dark demon inside. Don’t be fooled. It’s all a sharade, smoke and mirrors. You can think the narc genuinely likes you, maybe, but that won’t stop them smearing you, denigrating your character to everyone you know, You couldn’t never expect the zeal and tenacity they have for destroying you, for no apparent reason, then come and be nice to you after having done the devils work for the day.

Sooner or later you will experience one of the worst human experiences you’re ever likely to encounter in life. To have someone you loved, trusted, put your faith, suddenly turn on you and show disdain for you. It gives you a horrible sinking feeling. It is often described by those who are dragged into this netherworld as shocking. It’s all that and more. This is head turning Linda Blair stuff from the exorcist. It’s something you can never be prepared for in life. It’s the worst type of betrayal when you learn just how despised you are without rhyme or reason.

 

A narcissist does many things very well.

Please give me a moment to get a cup of coffee.

Okay, this is my list of things the narcissist does very well:

  1. Convince others they are a good person. My father is known in the community as a nice person, a giver, a philanthropist. Behind closed doors he is an abusive monster.
  2. Make it look like they are successful. See that car they drive. They have a few like that. They stepped on many people to get those cars. Those people (nameless victims) you will never see. Instead YOU see the fantasy.
  3. Easily convince you and sometimes millions of others of how popular they are. They have millions of fans but it’s never enough. “I need 100 million people buying my next record in order for me to feel more popular then I already am.” Their success will never be enough. They look but don’t ever feel popular. The goalpost will always change..

I could write a list of 200 things but I’m not going to go any further.

Good day