My top 8.
Because one just isn’t enough.
- Luck. Many think successful people are just lucky. So they wait to get lucky. And keep waiting. Successful people expect to get lucky. So they prepare for it and snatch it when it pops up.
- Vision. Many think successful people have a great visions. So they dream great dreams. And keep on dreaming. Successful people do have vision. And expect to achieve it. So they go for it.
- Plans. Many think successful people plan in great detail. So they wait for a complete plan before launching. Successful people do have plans. And expect to achieve them. So they launch and revise on the go.
- Perseverance. Many think successful people just persevered more. So they keep thrashing to achieve. Successful people do persevere. And expect results. So they persevere in what brings it.
- Intelligence. Many think successful people are the smartest in the room. So they give up because they’re not. Successful people expect they’re smart enough. And don’t waste time determining if they’re not.
- Education. Many think successful people went to the right schools. Got the right degrees. Successful people expect to be successful in addition to education. So they fill in the gaps continually.
- Money. Many think successful people are somehow given money. So they give up because they weren’t. Successful people expect to find the money they need to be successful. And eventually do.
- Different. Many think successful people are just different than they are. So they settle for mediocre. Successful people expect to be successful. So they never settle and they accomplish the extraordinary.
The best indicator of a person who will be successful?
Expect you will and be foolish enough to act on it.
You’ll be successful when you believe you will and never stop acting like it.
This is an audiobook reminding us to stay positive in life to get the results you want and need. A reminder to stay positive, no matter what you’re going through. #PositiveThinking55:19image was changed and he was finally55:22able to pass his test without incident55:26everyone faces crises by anticipating55:30the worst we tend to freeze unable to55:33function properly but by substituting55:36the power of imagination by55:38Imaging throwing mind and heart over the55:41obstacle it can be overcome the result55:45inevitably follows the thrust of the55:47mind now for the fourth element of55:50successful achievement put strong55:53positive thoughts behind your goal never55:58let negative thoughts surround you for56:01the negative thinker unleashes56:04destructive forces that can destroy him56:08it’s the law of attraction at work like56:11attracts like thoughts of a kind have a56:15natural affinity by sending out negative56:18thoughts the negative thinker activates56:21the world around him negatively he tends56:25to draw back to himself negative results56:29the positive thinker on the other hand56:32sends out optimistic thoughts and thus56:35activates the world around him56:37positively on the basis of the same law56:40of attraction he draws back to himself56:43positive thoughts he works and keeps on56:47working he thinks and keeps on thinking56:50he believes and keeps on believing he56:53never lets up never gives in he gives56:57the effort the full treatment of57:00positive faith and action result his57:04dreams come true he can because he57:09thinks he can57:10[Music]57:18as you encounter life’s challenges or as57:23you dream your dreams never write off57:27anything as impossible remember you have57:32the mental capacity to think your way57:34through any problem if you draw fully57:38upon your mind think hopefully get your57:42mental powers really working and things57:46can turn out better than they now appear57:49here are some proven techniques that can57:52help you meet your setbacks head-on and57:54accomplish your goals57:56remember the problem-solving process57:59first no get to know your problem study58:04it until you find the soft spot then58:07break it apart second think use your58:11head your mind is a powerful tool stay58:15cool and think straight the answer is58:18there if you let it come third believe58:23believe in yourself trust your ability58:27to see your crisis through to the end58:29repeat to yourself I can I can I can if58:35you want to accomplish something keep58:38these thoughts in mind have a sharply58:41focused goal pray about your goal to58:46make sure it’s right for you picture58:49your goal clearly in your mind and don’t58:52let that image fade work and keep on58:57working always take a positive and59:00optimistic attitude when you maintain a59:03positive frame of mind good things are59:06drawn to you and ultimately they59:09influence the outcome of your endeavors59:12everyone encounters defeating factors in59:15life but those who think they can do not59:19give in by drawing upon their inner59:23powers of mind and spirit they simply59:27refuse to be defeated59:29they know that even the most difficult59:32situations can be overcome so they59:36proceed to overcome them the hopeful59:39thinker projects hope and faith both59:43miracle elements into the darkest59:47situation and lights it up as long as59:51you keep the crippling thought of defeat59:54out of your mind59:55defeat cannot defeat you you can be a60:00winner i’m norman vincent peale i hope60:05you’ve enjoyed this and i wish you the60:08best things always this has been a60:20presentation of simon & schuster audio
The problem with a fraud as big as this president is that once you start collaborating with him, it’s impossible to get out.
Too Much and Never Enough, Mary Trump’s devastating indictment of how the Trump family created, as her subtitle characterizes him, “the world’s most dangerous man,” hits bookstores this week. Its publication coincides with—as she predicted—record-shattering COVID-19 cases, a fragile economy, and a half-formed government plan to open schools this fall at any cost. By now you have doubtless ingested the greatest hits of her family gossip: Donald Trump
- ogled his own niece in a bathing suit and
- sought to fill one of his books with hit lists of “ugly” women who had rebuffed him; Donald Trump
- paid someone to take his SATs;
- Maryanne Trump Barry, a retired federal appeals court judge, once described her brother as a “clown” with no principles; Donald Trump
- was a vicious bully even as a child;
- Freddy Trump—the author’s father—died alone in a hospital while Donald went to a movie.
The details are new, and graphic, yes, but very little about it is surprising: The president is a lifelong liar and cheater, propped up by a father who was as relentless in his need for success as Donald Trump was to earn his approval. Check please.
But not quite. What is new and surprising is also that Mary Trump, who has a Ph.D. in clinical psychology, has given us a granular portrait of Trump’s profound impairment: She says that her uncle has all nine clinical criteria for narcissism, although she insists that this diagnosis is only the tip of the psychological iceberg—he may also suffer from antisocial personality disorder, sociopathy, and/or dependent personality disorder, along with an undiagnosed learning disability that likely interferes with his ability to process information. I leave it to the mental health experts to determine whether some or all of that is accurate. But what Mary Trump surely adds to the growing canon of the “Trump is unwell” book club is not limited to family gossip or mental health diagnostics: At bottom, Too Much and Never Enough may be the first book that stipulates, in its first pages, that the president is irreparably damaged, and then turns a clinician’s lens on the rest of us, the voters, the enablers, the flatterers, the hangers-on, and the worshippers. It is here that Mary Trump’s book makes perhaps the most enduring contribution to the teetering piles of books that have offered too little too late, even while telling us that which we already knew. Because Mary Trump begins from the assumption that other analysis tends to end with: Donald Trump is lethally dangerous, stunningly incoherent, and pathologically incapable of caring about anyone but himself. So, what Mary Trump wants to know is: What the hell is wrong with everyone around him? As she writes in her prologue, “there’s been very little effort to understand not only why he became what he is but how he’s consistently failed up despite his glaring lack of fitness.”
The book is thus actually styled as an indictment not of Donald Trump but of Trump’s enablers. The epigraph is from Victor Hugo’s Les Misérables, and it’s emphatically not about Donald John Trump at all: “If the soul is left in darkness, sins will be committed. The guilty one is not he who commits the sin, but the one who causes the darkness.” Mary Trump
- blames Fred Trump for Donald Trump’s pathology, although she doesn’t claim that her uncle is a tragic victim of abuse. She blames
- his family that propped him up (also her family, it should be noted), and then in concentric and expanding circles,
- the media that failed to scrutinize him,
- the banks that pretended he was the financial genius he was not,
- the Republican Party, and
- the “claque of loyalists” in the White House who continue to lie for him and to him in order to feed his insatiable ego and self-delusion. Even the phrase “too much and never enough” is perhaps deliberately borrowed from the language of addiction, and what Mary Trump describes here is not just her uncle’s addiction to adulation, fame, money, and success, but a nation’s—or some part of a nation’s—unfathomable addiction to him.
The bulk of the book focuses on the tale of Mary and her brother Fritz’s abandonment by the rest of the Trump clan. Her father, Freddy, the scion and namesake, failed to be the storybook heir to her grandfather’s real estate empire, instead collapsing into a tragic black hole of alcoholism, illness, and despair. Donald Trump, Freddy’s younger brother, not only helped push Freddy down but also stepped on his sinking shoulders on his way into the empty, Freddy-shaped space to become his father’s successor. And as Freddy’s parents and three other siblings altered their lives and priorities in order to orbit around Donald, Mary and her brother were eventually written out of the wills, the empire, and the family story, as payback for their father’s perceived weakness and failures. This is all tragic in its own right, but it also makes Mary, who has been let down by the so-called adults in the room almost since her infancy, perfectly positioned to explain and translate what happens to otherwise high-functioning adults—
- her aunt Maryanne, a competent federal judge;
- the lawyers and accountants tasked with fulfilling Donald’s whims and hiding his failings;
- the sycophants and Republicans and evangelical Christians who support his campaign unquestioningly; and
- the officials who now populate the Senate, the Cabinet, and the Oval Office.
All of them appear to be reasonably mentally sound. Yet they all cover for Donald, at the expense of real suffering and genuine human loss, just as the Trump clan ignored Freddy’s disintegration and death. Mary Trump’s childhood trauma has become America’s trauma, and she really wants to know how that came to be. Again.
The section of the book that has garnered the most attention is likely Mary’s claim that Trump cannot be evaluated for pathologies because he is “in the West Wing, essentially institutionalized” and that he has in fact “been institutionalized for most of his adult life. So there is no way to know how he would thrive, or even survive, on his own in the real world.” We are not used to seeing entities like the White House described in this way—a “very expensive and well-guarded padded cell”—as a means of protection for the broken man inside rather than as a platform from which a leader can change the world. And her ultimate point is that even a shattered psyche, buffered from the real world, can still do irreparable damage to it. But the most interesting assessments she offers are reserved for those inside the “institutions,” the people who might have saved us and certainly have not, from
- the nuclear family, to
- the Trump businesses, to
- New York’s bankers and powerful elites, to
- Bill Barr, Mike Pompeo, and Jared Kushner.
They all knew and know that the emperor has no clothes, even as they devote their last shreds of dignity to effusive praise of his ermine trim and jaunty crown.
Mary Trump seems to answer the question of why they do this in a section late in the book about Donald Trump’s father, Fred Trump. In describing Fred’s growing realizing that his fair-haired boy, Donald, was a fraud, Mary explains that, yes, Fred himself was a master at fattening his wallet with taxpayer funds, committing tax fraud to benefit his children. (Mary admits she was the one who leaked the family tax information to the New York Times in 2018 for its blockbuster story.) But as it became clear that Donald had no real business acumen—as his Atlantic City casinos cratered and his father unlawfully poured secret funds into saving them—Mary realized that Fred also depended on the glittery tabloid success at which Donald excelled. Fred continued to prop up his son’s smoke-and-mirrors empire because, as Mary writes, “Fred had become so invested in the fantasy of Donald’s success that he and Donald were inextricably linked. Facing reality would have required acknowledging his own responsibility, which he would never do. He had gone all in, and although any rational person would have folded, Fred was determined to double down.”
Mary Trump’s words there could just as easily be true for
- John Kelly,
- Kellyanne Conway,
- John Bolton,
- Mitch McConnell,
- Susan Collins, or
- Melania Trump.
And as Mary Trump is quick to observe, the sheer stuck-ness of his enablers means that Trump never, ever learns his lesson. Being cosseted, lied to, defended, and puffed up means that Donald Trump knows that, “no matter what happens, no matter how much damage he leaves in his wake, he will be OK.” He fails up, in other words, because everyone around him, psychologically normal beings all, ends up so enmeshed with his delusions that they must do anything necessary to protect them. Trump’s superpower isn’t great vision or great leadership but rather that he is so tiny. Taking him on for transactional purposes may seem like not that big a deal at first, but the moment you put him in your pocket, you become his slave. It is impossible to escape his orbit without having to admit a spectacular failure in moral and strategic judgment, which almost no one can stomach. Donald Trump’s emptiness is simply a mirror of the emptiness of everyone who propped him up. It’s that reflection that becomes unendurable. This pattern, as Mary writes, “guaranteed a cascade of increasingly consequential failures that would ultimately render all of us collateral damage.” Nobody, not even Mary, who signed on briefly to ghostwrite one of his books, ends up just a little bit beholden to Donald Trump and that includes his rapturous supporters who still queue up, maskless, to look upon his greatness. As she concludes, his sociopathy “reminds me that Donald isn’t really the problem at all.” That makes hers something other than the 15th book about the fathoms-deep pathologies of Donald Trump: It is the first real reckoning with all those who “caused the darkness.”
Mary Trump is, among other things, a brisk and gifted writer, and she is a fact witness to, and also a victim of, a family that elevated a mediocre and vicious man, at the expense of justice, fairness, and truth. Her real beef is not with her uncle Donald, who has always been exactly as we have long known him to be; that’s why a smattering of new details about his business failures and meanness were never really the point of this book. We’ve read that book before. The perspective of this book is made possible exactly because Mary Trump was one of the first children to be written out of the will, cast out of the family, and denied the support and love that should have been hers, as a result of her father’s perceived failures. It is this—because she was ousted rather than being forced to remove herself—that allows her to see clearly why everyone else stuck around. And what she reveals is a devastating indictment of all the alleged adults who stick around Donald Trump, who came together to fail America, to leave vulnerable populations to fend for themselves, and who continue to lie and spin to pacify his ego. They do it because they can’t admit the payoff is never coming, and to save themselves from the embarrassment of having to admit they were catastrophically wrong.