A Guide to Dating Women Raised in a Matriarchy

Yes, I have a single mom. Don’t panic.

..  I wanted to be the type of girl who was breezy but able to be vulnerable when prompted. The problem was that I didn’t grow up without a mom. I actually grew up with a single mom, which is precisely the opposite. He paused and looked at me intently, and then said, “Oops, I meant dad.”
The truest answer would have been, “It was like living my entire life the only way I’ve ever lived it.” I don’t know. What was it like to have lungs instead of gills?
.. I have since learned that it is a shocking amount of trouble to tell men on first dates that I was raised by a single mom. They are always well-intentioned, flirtatious, curious, nice — and blindingly ignorant.
.. At first I thought they just lacked imagination. But I’ve come to see their responses as indicative of a more primal fear: Lots of people think that women need men, if not for their charm and likability, then at least for their ability to father children. A girl with no dad suggests maybe men aren’t so necessary after all.
.. I grew up firmly in a matriarchy. My grandmother divorced my grandfather when she was 31 and had four young daughters.
.. My mom chose to be a single mom and also had five children: My older siblings and I have donor dads, and my two younger siblings are adopted from Guatemala.
.. “I ask because I just want to know how young your mom was when she had you.”

My mom had me when she was 34, in a way that could not have been more planned, since she slept only with women and basically lived in a separatist lesbian community.

..  Forty percent of American kids are born to unmarried women. I’m here to let you know: You don’t have to worry if the girl across the table has a single mother. There’s no apocalypse coming for you. We probably even like men — that’s why we go on dates with them.

..  At one point, Wonder Woman and her male love interest have what I have come to recognize as the first date conversation of a girl who grew up in the matriarchy.

.. “Have you ever met a man before?” Capt. Steve Trevor asks. “What about your father?”

“I had no father,” Wonder Woman says. “My mother sculpted me from clay.”