89:48is going on here if we could have pulledthe soldiers in the Army and Potomac atGettysburg right after Gettysburg andsaid what did you accomplish here theywould have talked all about Union thatis what they would have talked aboutfirst to last first to last it was a warabout Union it was a war about Unionthat also killed slavery and most whiteAmericans eventually supportedemancipation but they but not for thereasons we’d want them to they don’tcare about black peoplewish they did they didn’t they sawemancipation as a tool to defeat therebels to punish what they consideredoligarchy slaveholders they didn’t thinkslaveholders believed in democracy theysaw them as oligarchs they call themoligarchs all the time the South is notwhat the founders had in mind and theycould work it out in their mind thateven though a lot of the founders areprominent slaveholders the documents andthe traditions that they bequeathunionists in the loyal States would havesaid the oligarchic slaveholding southis totally out of step with this theyare inimical to the intent of thefounders and if they succeed in tearingthe nation apart oligarchs everywherecan point to the United States and saysee we told you people are not capableof self-government look at them theycan’t even have a presidential electioncan’t even do that they rip their nationapart that’s what’s at stake that’s whatand if the Union gives you those thingswhat is your obligation as a male awhite male of military age yourobligation is you pick up a musket andyou go do your small R Republican dutyand who is your model there who is themodel for disinterested Republicanservice Stuart’s Washington GeorgeWashington didn’t even take a salaryduring the American Revolution andGeorge Washington did something twicethat absolutely blew people’s minds atthe time he didn’t do it once he did ittwice at the end of the RevolutionaryWarhe gave up power he was theGeneralissimo they couldn’t believe itin Europe he what did he show he’s notJulius Caesar he’s not Oliver Cromwellhe is a man with small our Republicanvirtue he went back to Mount Vernon thenhe’s made president he would have beenpresident for life if he wanted to beFDR had to think about it Washingtondidn’t they would have just elected heuntil they hauled him out of theExecutive Mansion but he did it againhe gave up power a second time and itjust absolutely mystified most people inEurope how that could happendidn’t mystify Americans they said thisis that’s the pointhe’s the point he’s the model so in ourown little way each of us were allmembers of the third Vermont in ourlittle way we are emulating GeorgeWashington
This one choice, whether a leader puts themselves or their people first, determines if they are worthy of our love and loyalty.
Story of shooting in Kenya, where mother threw herself on top of her child.
Simon Sinek noticed that some teams were able to trust each other so deeply that they would literally put their lives on the line for each other. Other teams, no matter what incentives were offered, were doomed to infighting, fragmentation and failure. Why?
The answer became clear during a conversation with a Marine Corps general.
“Officers eat last,” he said.
Sinek watched as the most junior Marines ate first while the most senior Marines took their place at the back of the line. What’s symbolic in the chow hall is deadly serious on the battlefield: great leaders sacrifice their own comfort—even their own survival—for the good of those in their care.
Several commented that SL requires qualities that are all too rare, such as “cardinal virtues” (Katherina Lange), a “paradoxical combination of courage AND humility,” (Lisa Slayton), “(a) high degree of self control… ” (Ashok Jain), and “validation needs (that) have largely been met … (making it) very challenging for younger people to be servant leaders” (Mike Gatliff). Personal characteristics that get in the way of SL include “Ego (that) makes it difficult to ‘want to serve'” (Randy Hoekstra), “greed” (Madeleine York), and “An unhealthy desire to control” (Judesther Marc).
.. Steve Hickman added, “… it is a recessive organizational gene… You don’t get promoted if you don’t get noticed.”
.. Several (including John Keck, Michael Darmody, and Mona Bagot) subscribed to the idea that SL can be perceived as a weakness.
.. Mark Stanley, who commented that “These terms do not fit together-Servant & Leader … It’s just another way poor leaders attempt to elevate themselves above those they ‘serve’… an entirely unhealthy approach for a leader to take… Our need to be led well is far more important than our need to be served.
.. Grant describes research in his recent book, Give and Take, that suggests that servant leaders are not only more highly regarded than others by their employees and not only feel better about themselves at the end of the day but are more productive as well. His thesis is that servant leaders are the beneficiaries of important contacts, information, and insights that make them more effective and productive in what they do even though they spend a great deal of their time sharing what they learn and helping others through such things as career counseling, suggesting contacts, and recommending new ways of doing things.
.. So in his seemingly tireless efforts to give, described in the book, Grant makes it a practice to give to everyone until he detects a habitual “taker” that can be eliminated from his “gift list.”