Narcissists exist in systems, supported by enablers.
The narcissist had a tough backstory (which excuses their behavior)
They didn’t mean it. (How did the narcissist enablers know this) gaslighting
I didn’t have any problem with them. (Dismissive Invalidation)
(They had a different relationship with them. They are narcissistic themselves or good supply)
It will get better. Just be patient. (This is cruel because narcissists rarely change and the narcissist faces no consequences.)
It’s not that bad. (minimization, invalidation, gaslighting)
Stop complaining. They work really hard.
(They’re a good provider)
ASKING POLICE THE SAME SILLY QUESTIONS THEY ASK US
https://youtu.be/Vfe714_TUec original link
I love how they think it’s offensive that he asked to look in their vehicle for alcohol or drugs, yet they do it to citizens every day, and their excuse is, “we’re allowed to ask.”. Yet after they ask, and are denied, canine is called, or the driver is placed in handcuffs, and suddenly they have glassy, watery eyes and see to do a roadside DUI test!
I love it how he turns the tables around on them!
U should have told him. He was detained n looks suspicious… Lol
I’d wish he was more brushed up and confident in asking for the ID
Next time…he should radio for more of his friends to come and surround the officers he is questioning. 7 or 8 of his friends should do.
This shows them exactly how it feels to be interrogated
1) “You’re shaking. Are you nervous?”
2) “How much have you had to drink today?”
3) “Is this your vehicle?”
4) “Where did you come from?”
5) “Where are you going?”
6) “What’s going on?”
7) “What’s the deal?”
8) “Got an ID on you?”
9) “You live near here?”
10) “Are you an attorney?”
11) “Where did you get your law degree?”
12) “Keep you hands where I can see them.”
13) “Why are you being so uncooperative?”Guess he needs permission to give his ID talking to someone on his radio.
LOL you should have asked if she could wait a minute well you went and got a dog to search around her vehicle LOL my opinion
Gaslighting defined
Gaslighting happens when an abuser tries to control a victim by twisting their sense of reality. An example of gaslighting would be a partner doing something abusive and then denying it happened. Gaslighters may also convince their victims that they’re mentally unfit or too sensitive
- manipulate (someone) by psychological means into questioning their own sanity.
Is it normal for cops to gaslight?
It’s part of the game of interview & interrogation. If you just take someone’s statement at face value you are not doing your job as a law enforcement officer and investigator. Hopefully by questioning a person’s statement you will get the truth and send the right person to trial.
Gaslighting occurs for The sole purpose of harassment and no other reason. A police interview serves a purpose.
(both are done to achieve power and control over others)
What are some gaslighting phrases?What are some gaslighting phrases?
When you express your feelings to someone who did you wrong;
- I am sorry you feel that way (demeaning, devaluing feelings and presuming a superior position in projecting blame onto you)
- You have that wrong
- That didn’t happen (attempting to make you doubt your reality)
- You are overreacting
- You are too sensitive (devaluing your feelings)
- The latest one ‘it is better to be kind than to be right’. Twisting the meaning to suit; to attempt to make out you are the unkind one when calling out what they did wrong and/or were disrespectful of you. This is to make you doubt yourself (you were the unkind one) and attempt to rob you of your reality (gaslighting in action) – and when saying it to others, it is a character assassination (malice). In reality calling out disrespect and moving away from it is the kind and right thing to do for ourselves – always.
- You will never find anyone else (went on to find my soulmate once I got rid of him. They see your strength and try and bring you down to make it your reality).
- You have issues (demeaning and taking the superior position in the attempts to deflect from their wrong doing to make you doubt yourself, your reality of what they did wrong to you.)
- There is something wrong with you (projecting)
- You are crazy
- You are weird
- Oh isn’t she nasty or unsociable etc (when you move away from them respectfully – in comes the character assassination gossip).
Laugh it off and keep bringing the focus back onto what happened – the truth. As gaslighting is a means of deflecting from the reality of what they did to you. Stand in your truth – unmoved and do not buy into what they say. I zone out as soon as I here any of the above – one ear out the other. It is more likely to upset those with low self esteem and confidence. Build yours up and stand your ground and then they can’t touch you. Moving onto to those who are worth your time, focus and energy – those who respect and value you (including your feelings).
People who gaslight do so for various reasons. They are insecure people who cannot take responsibility for their actions. Usually for dominance and control when in the wrong and seek to justify to retain superiority. And they don’t want to take accountability for their actions that are wrong or harm – not caring about the others feeling or they don’t want to deal with their inadequacies or guilt – so they will blame and project. They will have trouble in all their relationships – and may enter into mutually abusive ones.
Stay with your truth and keep bringing it back when they deflect. Then do what is kind and good for you – move away from such people for good. To those who value your feelings and respect you – those worthy or your energy and time with head held high.
Police Allowed to Gaslight, but not officially
If I remember correctly, all police departments allow their sworn officers to “gaslight”, but they need special permission. Some do not allow the officers to wear their uniform while working a part-time security job. That makes sense because, if a gaslighting officer takes police action, and they are wearing their police department uniform, the municipality the officer works for may be responsible for any errors the officer commits. That makes the municipality liable to a lawsuit; and that’s not a good thing.
What are some gaslighting phrases?
When you express your feelings to someone who did you wrong;
- I am sorry you feel that way (demeaning, devaluing feelings and presuming a superior position in projecting blame onto you)
- You have that wrong
- That didn’t happen (attempting to make you doubt your reality)
- You are overreacting
- You are too sensitive (devaluing your feelings)
- The latest one ‘it is better to be kind than to be right’. Twisting the meaning to suit; to attempt to make out you are the unkind one when calling out what they did wrong and/or were disrespectful of you. This is to make you doubt yourself (you were the unkind one) and attempt to rob you of your reality (gaslighting in action) – and when saying it to others, it is a character assassination (malice). In reality calling out disrespect and moving away from it is the kind and right thing to do for ourselves – always.
- You will never find anyone else (went on to find my soulmate once I got rid of him. They see your strength and try and bring you down to make it your reality).
- You have issues (demeaning and taking the superior position in the attempts to deflect from their wrong doing to make you doubt yourself, your reality of what they did wrong to you.)
- There is something wrong with you (projecting)
- You are crazy
- You are weird
- Oh isn’t she nasty or unsociable etc (when you move away from them respectfully – in comes the character assassination gossip).
Laugh it off and keep bringing the focus back onto what happened – the truth. As gaslighting is a means of deflecting from the reality of what they did to you. Stand in your truth – unmoved and do not buy into what they say. I zone out as soon as I here any of the above – one ear out the other. It is more likely to upset those with low self esteem and confidence. Build yours up and stand your ground and then they can’t touch you. Moving onto to those who are worth your time, focus and energy – those who respect and value you (including your feelings).
People who gaslight do so for various reasons. They are insecure people who cannot take responsibility for their actions. Usually for dominance and control when in the wrong and seek to justify to retain superiority. And they don’t want to take accountability for their actions that are wrong or harm – not caring about the others feeling or they don’t want to deal with their inadequacies or guilt – so they will blame and project. They will have trouble in all their relationships – and may enter into mutually abusive ones.
Stay with your truth and keep bringing it back when they deflect. Then do what is kind and good for you – move away from such people for good. To those who value your feelings and respect you – those worthy or your energy and time with head held high.
Why do narcissists want to gaslight you?
They don’t want to, they need to. This technique is how they get to the point of controlling you…essentially making you second guess yourself, the more the gaslighting happens, the more you second guess yourself until you start doubting yourself and feeling like there’s something wrong with you because you seem to not be able to remember anything correctly…making it easier for them to subtly start controlling you without you even knowing it…making you lean on them even more because they are being so loving and supportive…and the more experienced the narcissist is, the quicker this process happens…and the quicker this process happens, the sooner they can begin to unmask and show their true selves…and believe me, you ‘ain’t’ seen nothin’ yet.
Successfully gaslighting you over and over and over again. You now have been blamed for absolutely everything for so long………it’s been so drilled into your head that it’s always your fault, that you now believe that it really is all your fault.
So now…he can put even more limits on you…while he gets to behave and do whatever the h#|| he wants to do…because even if he cheats…or doesn’t come home at night…or spends the bill money on junk…or loses/quits his job…damages property…backs you into a corner…calls you every name in the book and then some (even in front of small children)…yells in your face…
…IT’S ALL YOUR FAULT…
…and when all of that is engrained in your head long enough…you believe it…and you spend all of your time doing everything you possibly can to keep him happy, but knowing that you probably forgot something that will upset him…or you’ll ‘stupidly’ ask him a simple question like, ‘How was work, hunny?’ or, ‘Hey babe? Did you get the gas bill paid?’ and completely set him off…and just when things settle down for a while and you feel like things have gotten better…you get up the nerve to finally try to talk about the eggshells you’ve been walking on because you’re trying really hard, and you tell him how much you love him and how you know he loves you too, and he tells you he does love you and then goes into all of his self pity stories and he ends up in tears…and he apologizes for his angry outbursts (not a real apology, just enough of one to make you think he’s being sincere)…and 15 minutes later, he notices that you didnt get to the laundry that day, and he loses his sh¡t and starts throwing everything around, and the kids are crying and he won’t allow you to go console them.
…and you believe it’s all tour fault because had you just done the laundry, he wouldn’t be so angy right now and so now you’re apologizing for upsetting him by forgetting the laundry and you spend the rest of the week trying to make that up to him…not knowing that you’ll NEVER be good enough…not knowing that you’ve been brainwashed…not knowing that you have no idea what kind of person you’re really dealing with…
…and until you learn about narcissism and gaslighting, you’ll have no clue what’s happened to you. All you know is that you are not the same you that came into the relationship.
Why do they gaslight??? To make you feel crazy and confused, opening yourself up to their manipulation because you feel like you don’t even know which way is up anymore…literally.
COPS AT THE DOOR SO DON’T OPEN IT
Never open the door. Unless they have a warrant, you generally have no obligation to have any contact. They don’t care about your best interest.
That innocent smile the last cop has while she tries to set the guy up to allow her partners to ruin his life and maybe end it , that’s terrifying: she is trying to create a situation where she can claim she was attacked so she can shoot that guy!
I am a former cop. No way would I ever open the door for the cops. No way. I have nothing to say to them and they have nothing to say to me. I learned that at the police academy.
Before channels like yours I honestly thought police had the power they act like they have. And it’s frightening for me to deal with them. Because they hold the power to ruin innocent peoples lives.
It is time for Cops to be held accountable abolish immunity We the people do not have to pay for their mistakes and ignorance of the law by violating our rights that they swore to protect
That blank look on that cop’s face when she said, “that’s fine”. That’s fine, is one of their go to lines when they are ignoring the public.
Did you see that one where the cop just wanted to look in the kitchen for him for just 2 seconds. She said ok come in. The police did a full search of the house despite her yelling for them to get out!!!!! Never let them in!!!!!
Never never ever open the door to the cops. You have NO obligation to open the door or even talk to them through the door.
The assault laws in this country need to be such that the owner of a house can PHYSICALLY remove a cop with NO business being there ONCE the owner has declined to engage in a conversation. This is BS! I know of few places where a home owner can physically remove a civilian, yet with a cop, it’s a crime! BS!
If they don’t have a warrant, don’t open the door. If they get a foot in, you’re screwed. If you don’t open the door, say “Leave now” and ignore them.
Absolutely right. The more they knock, you know they are serious about something that they WANT YOU for. If they knock and leave, it was not about you or important. And tell them “I don’t answer questions”.
Cops will push verbally or physically to get their way. They don’t care if its right or wrong. And when they are wrong, YOU will have to hold them accountable if they are going to pay for their actions.
>> THEY LOSE NOTHING EVEN WHEN DEAD WRONG! Don’t open door, don’t be NICE and talk! Their no 1 objective is to put someone in a CAGE!
Please make sure you have locks on the doors. These guys are evil
Even worse, once you open the door the cops can lie and say they smell weed or claim to see something illegal.
That last clip is a perfect example of those type encounters. The guy knew exactly what she was doing and called her out on it. Everyone should listen to Q, never open your residence to a police officer.
Without warrant they are just like anyone else. Without a warrant they have no right to enter or remain upon your property when told to exit, unless they witness something that makes an exigent circumstance. Unless there’s a warrant or a well defined exigent circumstance, they are just another other human. If they remain in or on said property after being told to leave then they are armed trespassers and an immediate threat to the security and safety. It doesn’t matter what question(s) they wish to ask, who/what they seek, or what gibberish they speak. They have stepped beyond the powers and authority of their office and have now taken up the title and role of criminal.
I used to totally support the cops but after neighbors calling on me for no reason I’ve learned to not answer the door and that ends the situation.
I have seen so many of their foot in the door tricks lately, that I thought they were actually selling vacuums. That being said, I learned on another site that you lose very important legal protections, once you step outside your home.
To be fair, the woman in the first clip didn’t open her door; the cops opened it and entered.
I just don’t answer the door simple as that and if they show up when I’m leaving or coming I just continue to leave or come don’t answer questions even if you might have thought you broke the law not knowingly never answer questions only person you need to answer questions to is your personal lawyer no one else
Thank you for sharing these types of Police encounter. The part i really really love about the young man at the door is when he tell the officer ” this is ALL ON VIDEO and it will show iv asked you several times nicely to leave, as soon as he says that, watch her face change and imediatly leaves his front door. Thank you lord for VIDEO and AUDIO phone cameras!!!!!
First words out of your moth are, “leave my property”, when they don’t leave, the next words that are repeated over and over are, “you are trespassing, leave my property”.
As you are saying that you call 911 and report that you have an armed home invasion in progress and they refuse to leave. Use the law against them.Notice: the lady officer did not stop breaking into that mans home until he informed her that she was being recorded
Any cop that puts their foot through the thresh hold of the door is breaking the castle doctrine and can be sued directly and can’t use c.i to protect themselves because they knowingly broke the law and violated not only your 4th amendment rights they violated the worst of them all the castle doctrine
>> You are describing a situation where “law” and “rights” exist. IF the 4th amendment was so great, RARELY (close to zero) would an officer put their foot over the threshold. Best to prevent this by keeping your door and your mouth shut.
>> @John James i agree but if only it was that simple!
This is why we need to reform the police, the lady blocking the door is actually breaking the law, you have every right to shut to door in their face if they don’t present a warrant, you have every right to not answer the door to cooperate or answer any questions, these officers have this illusion that everyone has to respect and obey them when you actually have the power the use your firearm against an unlawful arrest or entry into your home as you would against any civilian during a break in or robbery
Don’t open it. If they wanted you, they wouldn’t be knocking! Once you let them in, they can walk through your whole house because you gave them permission to enter! Ignore them, let them knock!!!
5 years ago, I had 2 brainless badged thugs show up to my house; demanding to talk to someone who I didn’t know; and even when I explained I had no idea who they were talking about ; they were demanding to speak to this person. I was getting ready for a fight because they wouldn’t quit insisting on the person being at my house. It could have gone very wrong, but they eventually left after radioing their supervisor; he told them to leave.
Giving everybody here a time reference. The last time the cops came to my house, I sat silently where they could not see me and they pounded on the doors and windows for 23 minutes. Your mileage may vary.
0:54 – “If I’m not doing anything wrong, I guess I’m doing everything right!”
LOL, I like that!So much truth in the words and the actions seen in this video… Its so sad you can see the officers were desperately trying to create a unsafe situation and people do know now how officer jump or put their body in the way to say they were assaulted where whey felt the feared for their life which ended up in a shooting… The African American male nor female can’t trust police officers with the heightened attacks murders assaults from white supremacy, race soldiers, etc… How can people trust someone that is know for murdering them… I dont blame these people for standing up for their rights that are suppose to exist for them as well as we Caucasian people. Its only fair to treat all with respect and with dignity. 👍 Too much has went on and its hard to trust anyone even during the pandemic… Safety first…😉
1) call your neighbors and ask them to film,
2) don’t open the door, talk through the door, and
3) video everything. What would you do if any other criminal came to your door?It is illegal for the police to put their foot in the door when you do not want them in your house. That is crossing the threshold so they break the law on video and never get it trouble for it . Why not?