I am in tears at the end of this. My Father told me when I was 14 he was leaving my mother. I immediately looked right at him and said: “What have you been waiting for?” I meant it 100%- I had always seen as long as I could remember how unhappy they were and particularly how ashamed he acted of her. I have only seen a few of your videos but the things you just said basically described my life. I have been growing more isolated in the past 4 or 5 years (I’m 37). I used to be very extroverted but also drank a lot but now I find myself needing to be alone more and more. I am a truth teller for sure. I feel cursed by it sometime- I was in a situation today where being fake would have benefited me and the person I was speaking too but I just could not do it. I am Increasingly more and more isolated from my family and just people in general it seems. My mother is re married to a pedophile but she enables him to continue doing what he does. I found child porn on their computer years ago and she has gone as far to accuse me of planting it on his computer. I took the issue to the police but ultimately I had not seen enough of the videos to allow them to issue a warrant for the hard drive and at that point it was up to my mother to hand over the property because technically its her computer but he mostly uses it. I am the only person out of me, my brother, and father (who is actually better friends then ever with my mom now) who will actually confront my mother about this issue. I want to Thank You for sharing this information on YouTube- I consume too much mindless content on the tube but what you do is actually helpful and intended to be so. Thank You Dr Ramani. I had never heard of ‘the truth teller’ but I identify with this role for sure- when I was 18 I got the word ‘honesty’ tattooed on my leg. I wanted it to be for me so its written upside down and backward. It was an impulsive thing and I don’t have many tattoos nor the desire for more. I had always wondered about why I felt so strongly about having that word tattooed on me and hearing this I can’t help and think about everything I saw in my family situation and being more or less disgusted or repulsed by knowing things were always going to be like this. I love my family and I see my brother suffering in particular and want to be able to help him but I get physically back physically close to them and some of the realities of the conditions they accept are just too much for me to not say something about. I am usually always trying to help but it is never received that way.
One of the best lines I ever heard in AA meetings was: “I grew up in an insane asylum called an alcoholic household.” It appears I was a Scapegoat and eventually a Truthteller. After my mother died I eventually broke off all contact with my psychopathic (or maybe simply narcissistic) sisters. Life has slowly been becoming more peaceful and even a little serene.
Thank you for your videos 🙂
I am one of what you explained in the video. I have always been doubting myself… to a point that I felt “Am I a narcissist or am I an Empath?” I feel people deeply, I even felt emotional about their pain… but I dislike those who say lies. I have hated stupidity that a lot of people can’t see at all. I have been watching your videos for quite some time. But this video brought me so much clarity.I cried when she said she tips her hat, and recognized the role. As someone who has been “the black sheep” because I saw the truth…triggering my parents, and “causing trouble” by not “going with the flow” since I was literally born —thanks for seeing us.
When narcissism meets authenticity
Narcissists do not like authentic truth-tellers.