How many people do you know that have been with their current employer for more than 10 years? Well according to the US Bureau of Labor Statistics it’s actually 29% of people, which sounds suspiciously high until you consider that a vast majority of this group are made up of workers on the verge of retirement, which is important to remember for later.
Amongst all workers in the US the median was just over 4 years.
In fact multiple studies have suggested that full time workers that stick with their employers for more than two years on average get paid FIFTY PERCENT LESS.
This is an unbelievably large gap, ESPECIALLY when you consider that the average of the loyal working group will be drastically inflated by senior executives and the c suite who tend to have more tenure. In plain English, for regular Joes like you or me, this 50% figure is likely understated.
So why aren’t companies stopping this? Surely having to pay tens of thousands of dollars to advertise a position, interview candidates, onboard new staff, train them and wait for them to get up to speed with their new role is not sustainable if it has to be done over and over again every 2 years… right?…
Well you would think so, but there are a few reasons why companies don’t care about employee loyalty… anymore…
I have worked in the recruitment/ HR industry nationally and globally for the past 8 years. This video is very accurate. HR departments and leaders will spout their narrative around talent that give you the impression they care. They don’t. The clue is in the word “resources”. And the cheaper that resource the better.
Employer: Don’t like it? Leave
Employee: I’m leaving
Employer: Unbelievable! Why?
Employee: I don’t like it
Employer: This is a great job
I was born in the 80’s and was taught at an early age that loyalty was a thing of the past. The longest I have ever spent at a job was 4 years. I’ll take it one step further and teach my son that a two week notice is also a thing of the past.
“Employers are going to screw you… So screw them back!”Sounds consensual to me
After working for almost 12 years now there’s 2 things I’ve learned. One is to work hard enough to get through the day and stay out of trouble but don’t strive for anything more cause working to try and be the best of your peers will most likely go unnoticed or unappreciated. And the other is don’t think just cause you’ve worked for one company for a good amount of years and gained a bit of experience means your invulnerable. You can still get replaced easily or fired at the drop of a hat if needed.The move away from internal promotions is so true, I’m over qualified for my role but they won’t let me move any farther because then they’d need to hire 2 people to fill my spot in order to move me to a more senior role. Instead they just hire external, which is ironic because they are going to loose me anyhow at this rate and need to fill those roles anyhow.
Companies want to hire a 25 year old with 35 years of experience and pay them like an 18 year old.The description for the bank manager is so true. I work at a bank and had always thought highly of the bank manager role but after 6 years I realized they just make sure customers aren’t upset with the bank and to make we hit their sales goal.Each time I’ve left a position after 2-3 years I’ve seen a jump in 20-40% of my salary. It just makes sense especially when career progression inside a company is never concrete and 2% increases YoY only adjust for inflation.I’ve always enjoyed smaller businesses than larger ones, they really value your work, constantly getting offers from big companies and just laughing , especially over the last few years , same companies too. Can’t keep staff around aye?Side note: if anyone comes around your office wanting to create a “skills matrix” or wanting to “document risks” it means ya’ll about to lose your jobs. I speak from experience 😅At the hospital where I work in I/T, when senior tech folks leave it often hits hard. They leave with 5-25 years knowledge you just can’t get back. BUT management seems to thrive on putting out fires and making themselves seem overly important. I’d say these last two decades have been decades of lost leadership and poor management–and workers have been paying the price by staying unfortunately.Hell, this is even true in small companies, the trades, and family businesses. I worked for my old man, as a laborer, apprentice, then carpenter. Started when I was 12, worked for him for 20 years. He promoted everyone past me, hired people and placed them over me, and kept me on a shovel or jackhammer. All of the easy/ prestigious work went to people who he recently hired. I started moonlighting in my mid twenties, working for the competition. Immediate promotion to foreman. Went into business, did a bunch of other things. Now I’m competed for by multiple companies that want me to run concrete pours or handle mid sized projects. The mentality I have adopted is that I’m a stray cat, or a mercenary. I’ll come and stay with you, for the food, but I can and will leave when I wish. The second I don’t like something…. I am gone. Build enough skill and connections that people trust you to handle things, and then you can call the tune.Don’t forget that the employer also expects you to have a perfectly-written resume, write a custom cover letter for their position, pass numerous interview phases that take close to an hour (or more) each, wait for weeks for an answer, and possibly even do free work to “prove” you can do the job even though you already have a fat portfolio to prove that, and then they turn you down anyway. Every single job can require 5-10 hours of work, sometimes more, when you probably won’t even get hired because they went with an internal candidate and could have just saved you all that time and effort by just hiring the internal candidate in the first place.This is very true. I was in a company that I thought valued their employees loyalty. 13 years of service and then out of the blue outsourced the job. We didn’t even get a farewell or thank you. HR just spoke to us that the company is letting us go. Sad reality.I once had an amazing manager who got everyone’s back and bought lunch every week for the staff. He was liked and respected by clients and staff… every quarter the performance was up and we were profitable. For his 25 year anniversary, the large multinational company we worked for gave him… a book stand, engraved with the company’s name. 😂 what a jokeAfter spending years being told i’d be replaced by machines, i went back to school to become an Electrotechnician. Basically, i repair/install/maintain the machines who were supposed to replace me now. Best decision of my life even if it was partly motivated by spite.Unfortunately, values like loyalty and dedication mean nothing in today’s business world. It’s cheaper to hire a new employee, at a lower salary , and fire an existing employee being paid more. Corporate loyalty is now a myth.Was has always pissed me off is the fact that you need so much experience for a lot of ENTRY level jobs. Even some internships which is mind boggling. I’m only 22 yrs old and I’m expected to have 10 years of experience. 😂
If your family is willing to marry your dog, to be with them every day, and night, a Dobe is perfect…because she’s bred to be a body guard, she will love you like no other can…but if you treat her like a breed that is to be separated from your family even by a door, your Dobe will first ignore you, then resent you, and then divorce you. One night you’ll wander in and be the intruder in her home. Bad bad scenario. If bonded however, they are real practical jokers and extremely loving with family, they also may not let anyone near your kids ‘just because…There is a reason this breed is called the Velcro dog. They stick to you. I’ve owned them for three decades. I don’t mind the devotion required. The reward is a love so strong, it breaks your heart.
Belgians are being bred more and more to be hyper watchers. They have never been known as pets as much as workers. They require intense training to level them out and more exercise than the Dobe or Rottie (who need it but not excessively) just to blow off steam. The barking may in itself get you in trouble if you live in a trafficked area. They won’t be as physically affectionate as the other breeds. They are often animal aggressive to new pets. I returned a puppy with aggression issues the same day to the breeder and recommended police academy. He was accepted.
Rotties are excellent watchers…but require heavy family time too….think only somewhat more forgiving than a Dobe. Drooly, sweet but with intimidating size needs socializing and intense monitoring with small kids simply because of their size.. They will follow you, waiting to do some job, any job. They are guardians, drovers, haulers and companions. They eat …a lot and love wrestling with family. When not on duty, they are goofballs. In the best sense of the word. The neighbors Zeus is a serious baby sitter. He would die for family.
None of those guarders you mentioned is a first time owner dog. But I would suggest a very noble breed instead. For a first timer, a smaller female German Shepherd rescue. Calmer, gentler tho slightly larger than the Belgian, more emotionally forgiving than the Doberman and physically more manageable with kids than the Rottweiler powerhouse. But intimidating as all heck.
German Shepherds look intimidating enough to deter intruders, their bark is thunder and like the other three breeds, can and will defend to the death. My parents loved them the best.
For the first timer, A true rescue GSD will normally be temperament rated, and housetrained. She will be spayed, and calmer than a puppy. Lots of toys will suffice instead of the furniture. A female is physically easier, and a little less stubborn. All these dogs require inside residency in the same room with family to remain reliable with family. After owning a pedigree GSD rescue, you’ll be ready for the challenge of a GSD puppy, or other protection breeds…but as it is with most guardian breeds, once you feel their powerful commitment, it becomes a ‘breed’ thing. If you become. GSD person, you’ll be in great company. Strong leaders manage strong breeds.
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I tend to think the reasoning that leads mature INTJs (yes, that truly makes a difference here), to both offer, and expect, loyalty is written into the core values that distinguish INTJs from the other 97% of the population.
A lack of loyalty is nothing more than a pretentious waste of time, energy, and effort. It’s pointless. Tiresome. Senseless drama. Inefficient.
The inability to accept somebody, (even oneself), sets the bar of expectations at having to hit a moving target. And, that isn’t very practical.
So, here’s where loyalty enters into the equasion. To let somebody in, there has to be an element of trust. There has to be compromise, understanding, a shared desire to improve, to grow, to accomplish something together that would not otherwise be possible.
That requires effort, consistency, loyalty.
INTJs are so incredibly loyal because they are typically very far-sighted. There is an objective in mind. There is a plan in place towards reaching that goal. There are many contingencies written in to the plan in some kind of forethought attempt at minimizing the impact of whatever surprises may appear..
It directly ties in to that greater good of the whole mentality. Once a person is invited to share in that journey with the INTJ, they offer the pinnacle of loyalty because they expect reciprocation of that same effort and self-sacrifice.. Why?
Because that is where the growth can be found. That is where things are real and potential magically becomes something tangible. Where plans transform into accomplishments.
Trust opens the first door. Loyalty opens eternity.
Immature INTJs are busy trying to figure out their identies, their purpose, their uncomfortable differences with the world. And, there is nothing wrong with that. Learning how life works is a necessary evil. Reguardless of personality type, the road to maturity is paved with lessons learned.
The short answer is that INTJs are loyal because they know betrayal is the ultimate insult. Surely if one tries hard enough and gives their best effort it must be worth something. And, if an INTJ didn’t feel that was a chance worth taking, they would have invested themselves elsewhere.
Loyalty is a double edged sword. There are a few ships I should have jumped overboard from long before I sunk with them. But, even if I could, I still wouldn’t change any of it.
That is the path to maturity. I found my sense of purpose and what is truly important to me. And, as an added bonus, by being loyal to my own principles, I am no longer chasing moving targets. Not worth my time to play that game.
So, there are a couple of things going on here that need to be corrected, first and foremost the power dynamic between yourself and your dog.
When your dog growls at you when you get into “his” space on the bed, what he’s saying is “This is mine, all mine, stay out!”
No. It isn’t. It’s yours. All yours and your dog is happiest when he knows you are in charge, you are the boss of his little pack, you make the decisions, and he submits to you in all things without question. The consequence of your dog asserting dominance in anything is the immediate removal of that thing by you. Therefore, yes, if a dog acts as if the bed is his, he must be made to leave the bed by you as a demonstration that it is YOURS.
He can be allowed back at a later time when he is behaving properly, and only so long as he continues to behave properly.
This kind of problem most often happens with small dogs. (Not universal, but commonly.) The reason for that is that owners often treat dominant behavior from small dogs as “cute,” or at a minimum, nothing to worry about. The best thing to think about when training a small dog is this:
How would you feel if your dog was behaving the way they are right now and looked like this:
If you would immediately correct behavior from a big dog, you should immediately correct that behavior from a small one in exactly the same way, because despite the size, It’s the SAME behavior, with the same psychology behind it.
Your dog is in need of some training, and more importantly, in a sense, so are you. You need to learn how to behave as the leader of your dog’s pack, how to calmly assert your leadership over every facet of his life, and to project energy towards your dog that makes him feel safe, protected, and subservient. He should never feel like he NEEDS to take charge, he should always feel that you are the one in charge and that’s a good thing.
That starts with walking him a couple of times a day, and not allowing him to lead the walk. It is your walk, and he is along for the stroll. He may not pull ahead on the leash, he may not go wherever he wants, he needs to walk beside you on a loose leash. Every time he pulls the leash tight, you stop in your tracks, give it a little tiny yank to communicate that he is out of bounds, and wait for him to come back to you and settle down, even if that takes a lot of time. The more frequently and consistently you do it, the quicker he will get the idea. The walk, to a dog, is a patrol around the pack territory. If you are without question leading the walk, then you’re the guy in charge of the pack. If your dog is leading it, they are, and the rest of your interactions will suffer from this power imbalance.
Remember that the leash is not a restraint, it’s a communications device. It should not be needed to restrain your dog, it should be used with small tugs and pressure to tell your dog where you want him to go. That’s why retractable leashes SUCK. A dog is ALWAYS pulling a retractable leash taunt, and therefore ALWAYS feels like they’re in the lead. If you are using a retractable leash, you should always lock it at a comfortable length so that the dog can walk near you without tension on the leash.
If all it takes me to manage a 60 lb Pit/Lab mix is a pinkie through the loop of a leash, surely there isn’t a dog that needs much more once they get the idea that they’re not allowed to wander off.
Properly walking your dog leads to other training opportunities. He should learn to sit when you stop to look both ways to cross the street. You can use a command like “Street,” work with him to understand that “Street” is a sit command, and suddenly the idea will dawn on him that there are more things in the world that mean “Sit” than just the word “Sit.” In my house, Touching the doorknob is a sit command. If I drop my dog’s leash, it’s a sit command. Fang was an absolute BOLTER when she was young, so we had to find creative ways to curb her instincts to bolt out the door when someone opened it a crack, or to take off when someone dropped her leash by mistake.
The more you work with your dog, the more confident you become, the more a calm, assertive energy projects from you, you are the boss, you are the person absolutely in charge and you don’t have to prove it, you just know it, the more your dog falls into the routine of behaving that way.
Do you know why Cesar Milan corrects his dogs with the little “Tsch” noise he uses? It’s not because it’s some kind of magic sound that makes a dog drop everything and listen. It’s because it’s the noise his mother used from across the room when she would catch him doing something wrong that he needed to stop right away. So imitating that noise helps him project the same calm, assertive energy that his mother directed at him when she caught him stealing candy off the countertop when he was a kid.
That’s why my dog stops whatever she’s doing when she hears my mother’s typical “EH-EH!” from across the room. It’s not the noise, it’s the energy.
When that dynamic is achieved, if you want them on the bed, they may come up on the bed, but they will already know whose bed it is and will respect the space while being happy with whatever space you allow them.
The best thing to remember is that the biggest kindness you can do your dog is to make sure he never feels like he has to take charge. A subservient, middle-of-the-pack dog is a happy dog who knows the top dog has his back and he doesn’t have a care in the world.