Well, it’s hard to oversee.
There is a very limited circle of people for whom typical INTJs would care.
But if they do then
- They give you their time. For an extremely independent individual it’s a big deal.
- When they do something crazy, you have good chances to be included in their indeavors.
- They give you loyalty. It’s not the kind of people who would turn their backs on you.
- They’re 100% present for you. Again, for a person who spends a lot of time inside his head it’s a lot of giving.
- They give you trust. And they assume you’re a person who can be trusted.
- They would be patient with you even though they might believe that you’re doing something really stupid. They would go an extra mile to give you a hand.
- They share honest opinion with you.
- They keep in touch with you for a number of years. They would even initiate the contact.
- If you face a problem and ask them for help, they will not be in peace until the solution is found.
- They do their best to know and understand you fully. They often get to understand you better than you know yourself. They bother to apply an effort to achieve this result.
How do you know if an INTJ becomes your close friend? INFJ here
INTJ are very strategic and enjoy time alone so if they are spending a fair amount of time with you (a day or two a week) and they discuss anything personal with you than you have earned their trust and they value your company enough to say you are getting close or are close.
We are very happy to be by ourselves so if i let someone in my personal space (my home) and they can just chill and i don’t need to entertain them or even talk much then they are rare.
I love when a person can just be at my place but not bother me or talk to much or expect anything from me. That’s the kind of person I’ll tell they can come over whenever.