I believe in most cases, yes.
Why?
- INFJs look for a long term relationship, most INFJs don’t do one night stands or short term relationships. The dating scene now, is more or less for appearance sake which isn’t genuine to the INFJ. So the INFJ might wait for a serious relationship while their friends jump into relationships around them.
- High expectations, INFJs are very critical people, not only on themselves. So the INFJ might want to find someone that meets those criteria or will be selective on their chosen partners. This obviously will take time to find a good partner to their standard.
- Some do enjoy being alone; INFJs do enjoy their alone time.
What are INFJs like in a relationship?
Overwhelming with love, with sorrow, with life, with everything. It’s 0 to 100 in 30 seconds.
A relationship with an INFJ is the most intense thing you will ever experience. This is no casual fling, no one night stand. If an INFJ chooses to pursue a relationship with you at all, it is for the purpose of spending the rest of your lives together.
You will truly experience what unconditional love feels like. What it’s like to be supported in everything you do. What it’s like to be encouraged when you are down. The INFJ is what you long to come back to after a weary, arduous, overwhelming day. The INFJ waits to listen to you, to minister to you, to ease your worries and fears, to make you feel like no matter what happens to you, it’s okay as long as you have the same love waiting for you everyday when you come back. The INFJ is home.
They will babble from time to time about philosophy, psychology, and about spirituality and the meaning of life. They will get carried away in their excitement, eyes sparkling as they explain only to abruptly stop and ask you whether they are boring you.
They will stop by every bookshop on the roadside, sneaking in, picking up books, inhaling the smell. No amount of books is ever enough. And coffee, oh how they love coffee.
On weekends they will throw on their hoodie, tie their hair in a messy bun, push their dorky little glasses up their nose and curl into a ball on the carpet beside the fire. The INFJ does not need elaborate vacations or luxury stays in hotels. They love quiet, creature comforts. They like the sound of the rain and how the sky looks like at night. They like the howl of the wind and sunsets by the ocean. Nature makes them come alive, makes them feel like they are one with the universe, a small speck in the grand scheme of things.
They will hate crowded bars, cigarette smoke and loud music. They will hate places where they will be in the spotlight. They prefer quiet, calm places where they can be invisible, comfortable and wonderfully themselves.
You will wake up one morning to them sobbing while reading the fate of strangers in a bomb blast. You will watch the ugliness of the world inflict terrible wounds on them, watch them die a little bit inside with every tragedy that occurs around them. You will watch as they go through multiple struggles and stay hopeful, like a beacon of light, making the dull, drab, hideous world a better place.
They might come home sometimes looking like an injured puppy because they’ve been criticized or yelled at. Oh, how badly the INFJ takes criticism; their tender hearts don’t know how to handle it. They might weep over a colleague they have upset, a friend who’s angry with them, a beloved person who cut them off forever.
But most of all they will assure you of their love everyday without having to say it. You will feel their love envelope you, always there, always waiting, at a moment’s notice. You will experience the warmth of their heart, the understanding in their eyes, the kindness in their smile.
If it lasts forever, it will be the best thing that ever happened to you.
And if it doesn’t, all the fire in the world will not be enough to burn away the memory of them.
Why is it hard to understand and love an INFJ?
The reason why it is hard to love and understand an INFJ is because they pick up emotions very easily. If you show a subtle expression of not show interest in how the INFJ feels, then most likely they will close off. Your approach to an INFJ has to be caring and loving and warm. Don’t judge either, they may say things that you probably won’t understand. As long as you are investing the sincere effort to understand your INFJ, it could be all they need. Most INFJ understand that majority of people will not understand them, but if you put in the effort to understand. It shows the INFJ that you are trying and loving them the best that you can. And most times that’s just enough for an INFJ.
When the INFJ tells you what they need in the relationship, DO NOT ignore it. If they ask to be cuddled more, then do it. If they ask for help, do it. If they ask for you to show more affection, do it. Most times, INFJ’s are fair with responsibilities. So, it’s not like they are going to abuse you and turn you into a slave. INFJ’s don’t really ask for much, they only ask to be genuinely loved, valued and cherished for all that they are.
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6 INFJ Perfect Companions | Ahh.. INFJ romance..Being the rarest personality type and often the most misunderstood of the 16 personality types, the seemingly lonely INFJ has better chances at catching a date than most people would think. In fact, the highly personable INFJ traits make them the perfect INFJ companion for many types, but what personality types are considered truly INFJ compatible?
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