Dr Tony Attwood – Good Mental Health for Autistic Girls and Women (taken from full video)

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that it will go and one of the things
we’re trying to say is
it will go okay don’t know when don’t
know how but it will go the sooner the
better and when it’s over we’ll do
something fun together because one of
the characteristics of autism is a
depression attack
it’s an absolute
deluge of negative emotion no I on
YouTube there is an excellent series of
videos by Maya today she calls herself
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the an mish Maya is from Copenhagen in
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Denmark and she has Asperger’s and the
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thing is from the age of seven she would
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have episodic depression suicide attacks
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what’s the point of life I’m gonna hold
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my breath till I die
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but anyway the seeds were there from
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early on
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now she developed a remarkable concept
that I am now using and encouraging
called energy accounting this was
designed for adults but can also be used
for teenagers and the idea in energy
accounting is that you have in your day
the concept of that energy bank account
that sometimes events will occur or
people that you meet will drain you of
energy and in that draining of energy
you are going to become energy depleted
so there are energy withdrawals and
energy deposits
there are things that
will energize you it can be mr. kitty
your cat mr. kitty mr. kitty is probably
one of your fastest Energizer’s and just
being in his mere presence is enough in
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knowing he exists it’s enough okay so
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what we do is go through what may be
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potential energy withdrawals and
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deposits this is the cheat sheet these
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are the things that we found that
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withdraw energy deplete you socializing
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yes the person with autism can socialize
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can be the life and soul of the party
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absolutely fantastic but tomorrow social
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migrate under the covers in the cupboard
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that’s it I’m gonna pay for this it was
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so good coping with change even if it’s
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to a preferred activity too many changes
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I have to use a lot of mental energy to
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recalibrate my mind to the same
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situation and if my main way of
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socializing
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is to have a huge and rich memory store
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of social events that I can use to
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imitate and become the person in that
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situation if I’ve never seen that
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situation before if it’s totally new I
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have no idea what my role and script
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will be making a mistake sensory
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sensitivity daily living skills can
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drain you with energy one of the major
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ways of energy draining is coping with
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anxiety and for the kids they use so
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much energy coping with anxiety at
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school there’s no energy left for the
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schoolwork there can be overanalyzing
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social performance analysis to paralysis
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specially inhibiting sleep sensitivity
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to other people’s moods being teased or
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excluded crowds yeah
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you don’t have to interact with people
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it’s just lots of people around
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government agencies Centrelink yeah yeah
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body shape it can be perceived injustice
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and there’s a psychologist I say there
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is astronomical psychology and some
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people are emotional black holes they
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suck away all your energy you are just
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with a cap and it’s gone and it never
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comes back they suck away your energy
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keep away from them okay what are the
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deposits solitude but it takes time
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special interest is your fastest energy
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restorative physical activity animals
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and nature computer games meditation
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caring for others yes it can be
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nutrition get rid of junk food sleep
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reading Harry Potter books by thought I
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want to put that in because it’s one my
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line
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mental health vacation day that okay are
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gonna take a day off because I’m got the
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energy to cope information on the
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Internet
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being with pets and certain people are
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the Sun they have that ability to
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totally energize you
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so in energy accounting we have a
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currency a numerical value how much an
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activity is draining or refreshing from
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day to day with an energy range from one
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to a hundred so on Sundays you may get
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socializing are totaling was the cake
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today was a twenty ah today nine no
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hundred today was a hundred so what
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you’re trying to do is balance the books
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between energy depletion and energy
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restoration so we add a numerical value
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of debits or credits and if needed must
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shed your more energy infusing
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activities into the next day or week so
we fight autism with autism
we’re pedantic and we have lists so this
is the list of withdrawals and deposits

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so you may have on the Left column what
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is it that drains you of energy okay add
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it up twenty forty sixty eighty twenty
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total 360 what we’re today’s deposits
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twenty twenty thirty forty total to
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forty oh dear you can cope without for a
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while but as you are sinking your reach
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a tipping point and you’ll just go
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straight down into a depression this is
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an illustration it’s a teenage girl
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Ellen she’s I think fifteen at this
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stage these are the things that debit
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her account being late to school ten to
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forty when I asked the guys why because
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everyone’s looking at you that’s what
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drains me of energy crowds twenty to
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sixty now mom being cranky when I think
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mom’s upset with me when she’s snappy
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thirty to a hundred now when we analyzed
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it further mom can be cranky with her
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ass be brother but it’s nothing to do
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with her but the mere fact that mom’s
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cranky infects a a huge degree teachers
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being snappy pre
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instead of tension 10 to 30 friends not
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being nice to each other 20 to 30 this
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was important friends own problems 20 to
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90 Wow okay then a few other things
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their team sport 30 to 40 okay what tops
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her up TV programs star kids Harry
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Potter
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Doctor Who Sherlock and Tolkien I like
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those because they can be great
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restoratives reading alone 30 to 40
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dancing freestyle gets home from school
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goes into a bedroom locks the door so
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our brother can’t get in cranks up the
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high five dances freestyle thirty to
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fifty but down there is talking to boys
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10 to 30 girls drain me boys infuse me
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very important other components we’re
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aware of can be substance abuse for
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teenagers and adults because if you
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don’t manage your emotions in an
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effective way you may discover there are
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alternative ways with alcohol and
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marijuana now sometimes that substance
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abuse is yes for emotion management it’s
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to engage reality to make you relaxed in
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a social setting but then you don’t do
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things by half or to escape reality of a
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bubble of numbness and I don’t care so
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alcohol and marijuana is freely
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available in modern society it’s a
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social lubricant it reduces social
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anxiety but you also then become in a
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member of a group with clear rules dress
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language codes of conduct and it’s a
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relaxant so please emotion regulation
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and management is important because if
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you don’t they may discover ways of
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achieving it that we do not recommend
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also there can be a high level of
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anorexia nervosa and ASD research
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suggests that actually about one in four
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of those in eating disorder clinics have
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signs of an autism spectrum disorder
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it’s not always the disorder of body
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image it can be issues of fascination
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with an association with diet exercise
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food rituals to prevent
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feelings of being out of control or to
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eliminate disabling anxiety or a special
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interest in nutrition and calories which
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means that any psychotherapy that is for
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gender dysphoria that anything that may
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be helping in terms of eating disorders
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borderline cover must be adjusted for
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the autistic mindset otherwise it’s
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going to cause a huge amount of problems
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now this slide was put in Jeannette
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before you decided to change your name
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to Yin but does that webpage still work
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she does that for me too okay and
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talking about cooking away barb cook
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spectrum women calm a place to go to be
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part of the tribe and understand each
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other another one of course is yellow
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ladybugs we promote this as best we can
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because it’s the best it really is good
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it’s amazing now the National Autistic
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Society in London have a free course on
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girls and women on the autism spectrum
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free until March then you pay for it but
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if you want to download especially as a
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professional also one of the topics that
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Yin mentioned is clinicians knowledge of
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autism but especially girls and women
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now Michelle and I are doing a master
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class in children and teenagers with ASD
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in diagnosis and treatment will be
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returning to Melbourne and we’ll be
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there on Thursday and Friday the 17th
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and 18th of October and I think we have
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some fliers there but also you may be
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interested that the day after the
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Saturday we’re doing a whole day on
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girls and women in great detail so I
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think a look at the timing of that
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spot-on
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okay thank you
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[Applause]

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Life Beyond the Mind: Eckhart Tolle (Onbeing.org)

Millions of people around the world have found pragmatic tools in his vision that fundamentally complicates the notion, “I think, therefore I am.”

I thought, “My God. Her voice — she never stops talking.” And I suddenly realized, well, I do that, too, except that I don’t do it out loud. And then I thought, I hope I don’t end up like her. And somebody next to me looked at me, and I suddenly realized in shock that I had actually said these words aloud, just like her. I said, “I hope I don’t end up like her.” [laughs]

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