Not Wanting Kids Is Entirely Normal
half of pregnancies in the United States are unintended.
.. Once you factor in the abortion rate and pregnancies that end in miscarriage, we’re left with the rather surprising fact that one-third of babies born in the United States were unplanned. Not so surprising, however, is that the intention to have children definitively impacts how parents feel about their children, and how those children are treated — sometimes to terrifying results.
.. Over 60 percent of the children studied were reported as planned, almost 30 percent were unplanned (“mistimed”), and 10 percent were unequivocally “unwanted.”
.. Barber’s research looked at things like the number of children’s books in the home, and how often a parent read to a child or taught them skills like counting or the alphabet for the “cognitive” aspect. For the “emotional” support rating, they developed a scale measuring the “warmth” and “responsiveness” of the mother, how much time the family spent together, and how much time the father spent with the child. Across the board, children who were wanted got more from their parents than children who weren’t. Children who were unplanned were also subject to harsher parenting and more punitive measures than a sibling who was intended.