MBTI Parent advice/styles;
INTP — Encourages learning and curiosity while being laid back.
INTJ — Hmmmm, okay. Here we will have a Career plan A, B, C, D, and E. And maybe a plan Z in case they want to pursue the arts.
ENTP — Live wholesomely! Learn to do everything in a balance.
ENTJ — Career Plan A. Also, because Mother. Knows. Best. Also, you’re becoming a doctor.
INFP — Do what makes who you are and what frees you. “No, I’m not talking about drugs!”
INFJ — Be kind and care for one another, because a good character always comes first.
ENFP — *Drives past McDonalds* Kids scream, “McDonalds McDonalds McDonalds!” and the parent also screams “McDonalds McDonalds McDonalds!”
ENFJ — This is what you want? Alright, let’s make your dreams a reality. *fast forward 10 years later* Wait, I thought you wanted this? This isn’t what you want? :/ At least you’re a doctor, I guess?
ISTP — You broke your scooter again? Sure kiddo! I’ll fix it right up in a jiffy! *Pulls out welding torch*
ESTP — Live life dangerously. Go out and break a leg. Jump off a plane if you have to!
ISFP — Life is a blank canvas. It’s what you paint in it that makes it colourful.
ESFP — Just enjoy and live in the moment, because the future that exists after stems from the now.
ISTJ — Micromanages grades, allowance, spending and time. “You’re 1.2 seconds late, I thought you’d be back at 10 sharp?”
ESTJ — *Drives past McDonalds* “No McDonalds. We already have food at home.”
ISFJ — The mother who packs lunch for her kids diligently every morning at 5am. The president of the Parent Support Group.
ESFJ — “Hey kids, look what Dad just brought home!” *fans out Disneyland tickets*
All 16 types have their own way of parenting and focus on different goals altogether, and all 16 can be successful in their pursuits or not.
Some are inflexible but are able to instill discipline and control.
Some are able to make their kid’s childhood happy.
Some are able to pave a bright future for their kids.
So ‘best parent’ can get very subjective here.
The Thriver’s Guide to Co-Parenting With a Narcissist
Narcissist’s don’t co-operate with joint parenting; co-parenting with one can seem IMPOSSIBLE.
I know you may be struggling HORRIBLY with the following:
The narcissist …
Not agreeing to things.
Refusing to turn up or stick to prior arrangements.
Messing with your children’s appointments, possessions and heads.
With you feeling POWERLESS to get this person to see sense and act decently for the children’s sake.
Is there anything more HEARTBREAKING than seeing our children hurt, disappointed or even blatantly abused?
I don’t think so.
You will hear from MANY that it is impossible to have any sort of successful co-parenting with a narcissist …
Or that you will never receive a successful custody settlement with one.
I want you to know with ALL of my heart, that this is NOT true.
Many Thrivers in this community have achieved successful, non-traumatising co-parenting with narcissists, and even, against all odds, had full custody rights awarded to them.
They didn’t achieve this the NORMAL way.
They did it with the use of the ONLY way that DOES work.
Conscious Parenting: Giving Ourselves (Richard Rohr)
Fred Rogers, the Presbyterian minister behind the TV show Mr. Rogers’ Neighborhood, said once that “to love someone is to strive to accept that person exactly the way he or she is, right here and now.” [2] . . .
That moment when we say, I accept you—even though being with you is awfully hard right now—that’s love. It doesn’t mean there aren’t consequences—we don’t have to accept terrible behavior. But part of how we love our children is in choosing, again and again, to take the whole child. . . .
Modern Motherhood
Just ahead of Mother’s Day, Molly Millwood, Ph.D. in clinical psychology on the faculty at Saint Michael’s College in Vermont and the author of To Have and to Hold: Motherhood, Marriage, and the Modern Dilemma (Harper Wave, 2019), offers a psychologist’s insights into the often unsettling terrain of new motherhood.
Mothers have a different experience with time. Their husbands often don’t loose the same amount of leisure time.
Even with supportive fathers, there is still a disparity between the amount of time demands on fathers and mothers.