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Former Secret Service Agent Shows You How to Get The Truth Out of Anyone | Evy Poumpouras

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now with with language there’s also
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things to look at in language just a lot
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of times it has to do with paying
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attention so if I say to you Lisa you
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know what time did you get home last
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night and you say to me well you know I
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usually get home around 6:00 did you
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answer the question but you’d be
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surprised how many people will let that
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go and they will move on I didn’t ask
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you what time you usually get home I
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asked you what time did you get home
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last night because people are trying to
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avoid lying directly is that why they do
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it yeah snips through the cracks it does
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well look people we all know it’s wrong
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to lie so we don’t like lying so the
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most popular way we lie is through
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omission we will leave something out we
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will be vague in our language and so we
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really want to listen to the language
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are people answering your question when
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you ask a question do they respond back
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with a question who me
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are you talking to me it could be a
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stalling tactic yes it’s me there’s
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nobody else in the room it’s just you
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and I who else would be asking you and
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to listening to the language that people
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use also another indicator is usually
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when we speak we’ll say I I feel this
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way I this I went here I that III what
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you’ll tend to see in verbal language is
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somebody who doesn’t use I it means that
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there’s a lack of commitment that
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they’re telling you something but
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they’re not committed to it so think of
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the sentence if I say to you miss you
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love you can’t wait to see you okay I
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miss you I love you I can’t wait to see
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you there’s more of a commitment on that
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latter one so you can possibly assume
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again assumption but the first person
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really doesn’t miss you all that much
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really doesn’t love you all that much
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doesn’t care whether they see you and so
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there’s so many clues and the things we
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say then also how we say them you know
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do people speak with conviction are they
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vague so when it comes to deception
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people who lie are typically vague
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because when you’re lying there’s so
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much more you have to remember there
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won’t be as detailed Wow yes that was
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far ago and everything is in the book
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that they can find everything is so much
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stuff but it’s all great stuff and it’s
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all it’s all the little things like
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there’s no gimmick there’s no like here
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just do these three steps you will know
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it’s it’s really understanding people
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studying human behavior look I’m
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fascinated by people and everyone’s
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unique and everybody’s different and so
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you want to learn people understand
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people and the more curious you are
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about people the more you’ll be able to
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read them and think what matters is to
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this person why would they lie to me
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well what would there be there what
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would be their incentive their motive
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and that’s where empathy comes in using
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empathy to understand somebody else’s
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perspective see the world not through
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your eyes through their eyes and even
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something simple as when I would do
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interviews with people I would sit in
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the chair the person I would be
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interviewing and would sit because I
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wanted to see what does it feel like to
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sit in this chair where are they looking
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what are they staring at is their window
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is their clock are they distracted by
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something what does it feel like so talk
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to people not the way you want to be
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spoken to but the way they want to be
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spoken to a way that resonates with
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and how do you do that by talking less
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and listening more because they will
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give you clues and insight to who they
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are mmm
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God that was fire that was amazing
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and I think I know the answer to this
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question because I think you just
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answered it but what is your superpower
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gosh my superpower I feel a lot you fail
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a lot yeah
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failure is my superpower the more I fail
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the more resilient I become and the less
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afraid I am of it
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failure is my superpower I love that and
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where can people find you in your new
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book and you show that you’re on and
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everything that you’re doing
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so spy games is every Monday night on
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stuff we talked about it’s in there and
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I just took everything that I learned
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that I was privileged to be in the white
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house to be around these extraordinary
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people to go through all this training
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and my mindset was how do I help people
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how do I serve people I don’t want to
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write a book about me I wanted to write
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even people that don’t mean to harm us
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harmless and so how do you how do you
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