5 Ways Super Empaths Confuse Narcissists

Today we are going to break down 5 Ways Super Empaths Confuse Narcissists. We all know that Empaths are highly sensitive individuals who attract narcissists. A higher type of Empath called Super Empaths are those individuals perceived as the Narcissist’s worst nightmare. Let me ask you, Why are Super Empaths called to be the “Narcissists’ worst nightmare?” One of the clear answers is that “Super Empaths could leave the Narcissist confused and unable to react.”

How are Super Empaths doing it? What are the Super Empath’s methods to confuse a narcissist? Today we will show you 5 Ways Super Empaths Confuse Narcissists. And we are starting right now.

00:00 5 Ways Super Empaths Confuse Narcissists

00:42 1. SUPER EMPATHS ALWAYS SAY NO TO THE NARCISSIST

01:22 2. THE SUPER EMPATH IGNORES THE NARCISSIST 02:22

3. THE SUPER EMPATH IS NOT PREDICTABLE 02:46

4. THE SUPER EMPATH DOES NOT GIVE THE NARCISSIST NEGATIVE ATTENTION.

03:29 5. SUPER EMPATHS DON’T GIVE THE NARCISSIST ANY SOLID EMOTIONAL REACTIONS.

05:20 BONUS 6: THE SUPER EMPATH AGREES TO EVERYTHING THE NARCISSIST SAYS TO THE POINT OF BEING RIDICULOUS

 

Don’t Argue or Fight With a NARCISSIST – Do This Instead To WIN EVERY TIME | Lisa Romano

Don’t argue with or fight with a narcissist. Instead, learn how to hold onto yourself so you don’t lose your cool. Learn how to not argue with a narcissist, and you take the power out of their hands.

 

Use the word “we” to diffuse

Keep your eye on the goal.  Don’t take the bait.

Try not to appear anxious or nervous

Maintain your dignity and integrity

Hold on to yourself.  They may threaten abandonment.

 

 

This is something you probably didn’t know was gaslighting…

Recently I read a definition of privilege as, “thinking that something isn’t a problem because it isn’t a problem for you personally.” All my friends had the privilege of only knowing my ex partner superficially, and our mutual friends all thought he was great. None of them were interested in how damaging his private world with me had been because they couldn’t even imagine it. Your video explains this dynamic so comprehensively. Thank you.

06:14 “They’re a charmer in public. They’re a cruel manipulator at home.”

This is exactly an ex-friend of mine. He is so charming and charismatic. I didn’t understand why such a nice guy divorced twice. But I suddenly realized something is wrong with him. He often violated my boundaries and his first spouse ran away from home. So I decided to go no contact with him completely.

One of the hardest parts of leaving this type of relationship is trying to convince others what you’ve been through when you doubt so much yourself. It’s incredibly lonely. If you manage to find anyone at all that believes you, hold onto them! ❤

Oh my gosh. All my life I’ve been told I was being too sensitive – when what people were actually doing was emotionally abusive. Even my own family would say this to me. I need to be thicker skinned. Why should I need thicker skin when dealing with people who are supposed to love and support me? Crazy.

Hahaha! Yes my ex did the whole abusive thing behind closed doors and then the minute we were in public he became charming and friendly and funny with everyone and super affectionate with me (which made my skin crawl – so I’d shun his physical proximity, which only made me look like a b!tch to others) the difference is – I didn’t forget what he was like with me privately. I still knew he was a pig. His little act for the audience just made me loathe him more. What all this did made me feel I wasn’t worthy of his best behaviour or kindness. Knowing that he was nice to others but not me made me feel that I was lacking, because I didn’t know about narcissists 20 years ago. It wasn’t the ‘thiing’ that it is now, sadly for me. He’s long gone from my life, but the scars remain and self-doubt when it comes to trusting isn’t easily fixed.

This is my ex-husband. He’d actually go weeks without talking to me. I mean full on silent treatment and then at dinner with my family or our friends, he’d gush about how lucky he felt to be with me, how wonderful I was. So I couldn’t tell anyone because he was an angel and charming and sweet to others and in front of me. I couldn’t decide what was worse the emotional abuse or the physical abuse. I was 24. I’m 34 now, it has taken years to heal. Thank goodness for Dr. Ramani. Before her, I couldn’t name this… I even would wonder if I was wrong to divorce him. May God protect his new wife.

What is the commander personality that can control narcissists? Can you learn that?

Yes. It’s very easy to control a narcissist and give a narcissistic injury.

If you want to do this may I advise to you that I will take no responsibility for what might happen to you. Narcissists are dangerous and out of control lunatics. It’s best to leave them behind.

Okay? With that out of the way here’s how to control a narcissist.

You flip the script and instead of defensive mode you go into offensive mode.

You put a mirror back onto them of their feelings.

You do this in a non threatening and non emotional manner.

YOU are the commander of your emotions.

YOU direct the conversations.

Think of yourself as a doctor giving your prognosis to a patient that is very ill.

Reflecting back onto the patient just how their behavior is causing them harm to their health.

The reasons narcissists behave as they do is to be able, at all costs to NOT reflect and look inside themselves.

When they say something to you like:

“Wow, your work has just only improved slightly. It’s okay, you could use more practice.”

You could say:

You seem angry”

“You seem upset is something frustrating you?”

“Is something bothering you?”

Hold a mirror up to them. Reflect back to them their emotional states.

When they get negative (and they will) you could say something like:

You have difficulty being positive don’t you.”

“You hate happiness don’t you?”

“Be appreciative, life is short”

When they try to get you angry and start yelling at you, you could say:

“You enjoy abusive behavior”

“You enjoy starting fights.”

State their feelings, nothing more. Do not get into an argument. Stay calm and ninja.

If they fly off the handle leave with no explanation.

It has nothing to do with you. They cannot reflect on these emotions.

They want you to focus on you so you never look at them, turn it around and reflect the mirror back to them.

With some such as malignants this won’t do a thing, sorry to say…