Sociologists have long theorized that being the more committed partner in a romantic relationship is a very uncomfortable place to be. “If one lover is considerably more involved than the other, his greater commitment invites exploitation or provokes feelings of entrapment, both of which obliterate love,”
.. The person with the least interest in continuing the association has the power to dictate the terms on which it will continue.
.. The couples who live together are at higher risk of asymmetrical commitment than are those who merely date (42 percent to 30 percent).
.. “It is immensely dissatisfying and frustrating to be the more committed partner in an unequally committed relationship,”
.. Were these asymmetrical relationships more likely to break up? Yes, overall, but when the scholars looked closer they found that this was mostly true when the less committed partner was a woman. “Overall, women’s levels of commitment were vastly more predictive than men’s levels of who stayed together and who did not (five times more predictive),”
.. Men prefer having a woman, even one they aren’t that into, to not having a woman. Women more often prefer being alone to being in a poor-quality relationship.
.. “more people are finding themselves in long-term, unmarried relationships, sometimes for many years, before they realize that their partner is just not that into them. Sliding into moving together or having a child together is often not transformative.” If you want a happy and stable marriage, don’t slide, decide.
Trump Adviser’s Slur Is a Sign of Things to Come
Some men boarded the train a few stops after me, shouting about Hillary Clinton. I took out my earphones to listen. “She’s a slut who belongs in jail,” one of them said.
.. This is only the latest time the slur has been lobbed at Mrs. Clinton by the Trump camp. Back in July, Scott Baio, who spoke at the Republican National Convention, tweeted a meme using the slur. The alt-right radio host Alex Jones has called her a “bitch” and a “witch.” Rush Limbaugh called her “a witch with a capital B.” Merchandise reading “Trump That Bitch” and “Life’s a Bitch; Don’t Vote For One” has shown up at Trump rallies.
.. Probably every woman in America has been called a slut, a bitch or worse.
.. Every time one of Hillary Clinton’s opponents speaks words like this, we remember the men who sought to humiliate us and to keep us silent. We remember the first time, when we learned the words that men would use to hurt us. We remember the last time, when we were surprised to find those words still hurt. Words can’t stop us, but they matter and they do harm.
.. I wasn’t surprised to hear Hillary Clinton called a slut that night in July. I know I’ll hear worse if she becomes president. I’m prepared, but I wish I didn’t have to be.
Netanyahu Criticizes American Jewish Leaders Over Western Wall Protest
JERUSALEM — In a sign of a growing rift, Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu criticized American Jewish leaders on Wednesday as a struggle over a stalled plan for equal prayer rights for both sexes at a Jerusalem holy site erupted with mutual recriminations and a tumultuous protest led by liberal rabbis wielding Torah scrolls.
.. The Western Wall, the holiest place where Jews can pray, has become the crucible of a fight over rituals and a sense of belonging. Together with their Israeli counterparts, North American Jews, who overwhelmingly identify with the liberal, non-Orthodox Reform and Conservative streams of Judaism, have challenged the strictly Orthodox authorities who enforce the traditional practice at the site, in which scores of Torah scrolls are restricted for male use.
.. Liberal Jews hailed the decision as historic at the time, but the government has failed to advance the plan because of opposition from the ultra-Orthodox parties that Mr. Netanyahu relies on for his governing coalition.
Frustrated by the lack of progress, and with a petition pending before Israel’s Supreme Court, non-Orthodox rabbis and lay leaders defied traditional convention by marching to the Western Wall holding 14 Torah scrolls. Despite some violent pushing and shoving by orderlies and ultra-Orthodox counterdemonstrators, they broke through the security barriers.
For Melinda Gates, Birth Control Is Women’s Way Out of Poverty
we not only believe in, we use in the United States — more than 93 percent of married Catholic women report using contraceptives
.. What would be the payoff if you can get to 120 million women?
You’d start to break the cycle of poverty. Women in the United States, when we were finally able to really use contraceptives, look what it did to women going into the work force. All over Africa, young girls getting pregnant early when they don’t want to keeps them out of school. So you’d keep more girls in school, and then you’d have educated girls who would go into the work force.
And we know that when a girl or woman has economic means in her own hands, it shifts the whole power dynamic in the family, whether it’s with her mother-in-law or her husband. It’s the beginning thing that unlocks a woman’s potential.